We've had requests for Christmas gift ideas for our children from some family members. We're not close to these people - not seen 1 set for 4years. We live a long way from them but they do visit our town regularly without showing an interest in visiting us (we find out from FB / other family after the event). When we travel to visit family they are never available to see us. No falling out, just never been close & when we have seen them in the past we have little to say to each other. I always send a message to thank for gifts but never get a response. Other family member has refused to see us over a comment made by my husband 18 months ago.
We have four children under 6 and they know of these relatives but have little or no memory of them. I have no great interest in building relationships with these parts of the family but don't want to appear rude by turning down gifts on behalf of the children and don't want to cause upset with other parts of the family. Part of me feels it's not my place but then I can imagine they feel they should buy (& we're an expensive do with 4 of them!) rather than want to buy and I'd rather they just didn't on that basis. I suggested the first set didn't buy last year and they just sent a card, which was fine but clearly I didn't get the message across that we wouldn't be offended if they didn't buy gifts.
AIBU in asking them not to bother? How can I do it kindly?
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We'd rather not have gifts, thankyou...
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Underbrella · 26/11/2015 11:29
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