I just nipped into a petrol station and a woman got out of her van, approached me as I walked back to my car and said:
"What gives you the right to drive out in front of an ambulance when they're in a rush?"
I opened my mouth to respond and she (I kid you not) wagged her finger in my face and said "naughty girl! Don't do it again!" before running the three yards back to her van. For the record, I am thirty...
I told her she should probably mind her own business as she was still chuntering (whilst desperately trying to get her van door open)
I told her I couldn't hear what she was saying but that if she had a point to make, I'd be happy to discuss it - but by that time she was back in the safety of her van, having hoiked her bosom, told off the 'naughty girl' and single handedly saved the day.
Now, without turning this into the longest post ever, I had to pull in to the petrol station to get out of the way as I was blocking where traffic getting out of the ambulances way would go, IYSWIM. The ambulance was at least a mile away and there is no way my actions would have hindered it.
However, I appreciate it was a judgement call - I have seen that area snare up in seconds as its also surrounded by houses and genuinely believe getting out of the way was the wisest move. The road frequently has ambulances on it as is on the way to the hospital and I have seen ambulances having to wait whilst people get themselves out of the way before now.
ANYWAY, am I being U to despise people who 'confront' people the way the woman in the van did?
If you're going to confront someone, for god's sake commit to it! I really don't understand people who psych themselves up for a confrontation on a point they clearly feel strongly about but don't expect a reaction and then run away, tail between their legs, when they get one!
She was so self-righteous but had nothing to back it up with and actually ran away from me when I wanted to discuss it!
What possesses people to do this? Her voice was shaky, like she'd been rehearsing what to say...
AIBU to really hope the next person she decides to 'confront' just happens to be a complete thug who gives her a mouthful of abuse? Although I suspect she would never approach someone who looks gobby - clearly my 'girlish' appearance fooled her and she had to make a hasty retreat 
AIBU?
AIBU to think if you're going to confront someone, do it properly?
PowSuperDog · 25/11/2015 17:50
Allbymyselfagain you're spot on!
I had it once with a man behind me in a bar queue, convinced I'd pushed in (I hadn't) - he started mouthing off about me to all those in the vicinity, loud enough so I could hear - he didn't realise my massive rugby player brother was behind him - have never seen the colour drain from a face so fast when Dbro tapped him on the shoulder and said 'scuse me mate, you're not talking about my sister are you?"
Very entertaining
Recently a man hit the back of my car driving like an absolute twat. I was stationary in a queue of traffic. I got out the car and he started going 'get the fuck out of my way' etc.
I walked around the back of my car (he was still in my bumper) and went 'me move out your way?! You're in the back of my car!! What the fuck do you think you're doing?! You've hit my fucking car' etc. My friend got out the passenger side and the bloke drove off very fast.
Turns out he's told the police he knows he should've stopped but he couldn't deal with these two women raging at him
I'm not usually quite so confrontational 
but I just think you shouldn't drive into the back of someone and expect them not to say something 
Very amused by this fully grown bloke driving off because he didn't expect two small women to gob off back at him though
Sorry but I'm ROFL. At the image of got in my head. Of you standing there with a WTF face while she's waggling her finger at you saying You naughty girl. Don't do it again.
I'd have either laughed in her face. Or id have been tempted to bite her fucking sweaty finger off, not literally of course.
ilive it was hilarious - I am 6 foot tall and thirty years old. I honestly can't remember the last time someone wagged their finger at me - was stunned!!
She was very obviously that kid at school - usually they wag their finger at the wrong person sooner or later
Scary thing is - is that how she handles every incident where she thinks someone's made the wrong call? How has she not had her head kicked in?
I am very proud of myself for not swearing
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People are weird.
Someone ran into the back of our car once. Dh was driving and I jumped out. Went and had a look.
The car was still firmly in my bumper. I looked at the womanThe woman said 'what are you fucking looking at?'
I said 'the dickhead who has ran into the back of my car'
She denied she had, so I pointed out that her car was still in my bumper at which point she got out and apologised.
There was also a woman at work who got shitty with every one and no one ever said anything. She tried it with me one day moaning about calls waiting and how it was all my fault for some odd reason.
I told her in no uncertain terms she was being a twat.
She didn't say anything back. She didn't get shitty as much either so win win
I commit, but I do so nicely, which, like your girlish appearance fools people into thinking I am fair game.
A woman let her 4/5 year old DD push a trolley around a car park, she rammed it (accidentally due to being too little to control it) into my car.
I got out and told the woman that she should keep a better eye on her DD. She then told me that she was in the car. I informed her that she had run to the car in fear after ramming the trolley into my car and she was lucky she had not run in front of another car, with her paying her so little attention and it being car park!
She then yelled abuse at me!
I informed her very strongly about herself. As I had been quietly spoken and polite up until that point, it came as a bit of a shock to her!
Yeah, I commit!
mamma exactly!! You sound much more controlled than me 
I'm not a huge confronter because a confrontation of my standards involves way too much effort/shit-losing than I generally have time for!
However, seeing cruelty does something to me - it's an instinct thing which I struggle to control - saw someone be unspeakably cruel (violent) to my cat once and vaguely remember thundering over to the person waving arms and bellowing - god only knows what I must have looked like. However, it got my point across very adequately - if only I could conjure that reaction at the drop of a hat...
battleshiphips your dog is clearly a super dog who has the audacity to open someone's car door, but then run away from a tiny dog?
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These make me laugh, how do these people make it to adulthood without having learnt to keep their noses out? Unfortunately my worst experience wound me up so much even 10 years later I still look back and think wtf.
I commute to London and I just have to be calm and chilled but last week a women walked into the back of me at speed and when I turned to check she was OK the look on her face was a why are you in MY space kind of snarl grimace followed by a muttered fucking idiot get out of my way. I'm afraid I told her if the wind changed she'd stay like that and then added maybe it has must work on my calm and chilled
I love this! I am SO going to wag my finger and deliver a sharp reprimand to the next person who pisses me off. I shall "tsk" as well.
Just don't cross me, OP ... you won't like it ...
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