DD is 13 and I keep my eye on her texts and social media accounts to make sure she's not sending or receiving anything she shouldn't - not up for a debate on that really, I feel it's appropriate at her age. She's aware I've got her passwords etc but wouldn't be delighted about the idea of me looking I don't think.
I've discovered some quite unpleasant messages from a boy she used to be friendly with, picking on her about a certain aspect of her appearance and moving on to 'nobody likes you' type of nastiness. I really don't like the tone of the messages or the fact that it's been done in such an underhand way i.e. by direct message instead of openly or face to face.
I'm not about to go in all guns blazing and get the boy into trouble although I know I could speak to either the school or his parents if I wanted but I think that would mortify DD. I really just want to support her and maybe suggest some ways to deal with such nasty behaviour (or take it further if she wants me to) but how can I when she's chosen not to tell me?
I really don't want to let her know I looked at her account as I'm worried it'll make her delete other things in the future to stop me finding out. All the advice says to keep an eye on your child's online activity at this age but I don't know what you're supposed to do when you do actually find something out!
Should I just butt out and accept that this is the way the nasty kids do their dirty work these days or should I try and find a way to raise it with DD and risk her never telling me anything again?
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