More of a thread inspired by a thread than a TAAT.
I have 2 DC, aged 3.4 and 4.5. If someone posts about their Year one child choosing to be a right arse (or words to that effect) I internally nod and go 'Yup' because I live with a preschooler and a Reception child and quite frankly there are times when they deliberately choose to be arses. I love them and all, but they can be arselike (as indeed can I). The trick is to notice when their behaviour is feigned (i.e. they set out with the intention of winding me up) and when it's unintentional. I believe that they are capable of choosing to be difficult sometimes - they are not misunderstood blameless little darlings ALL the time. Sometimes, but not always. I try to spot the difference.
I'm more 'Aww, poor baby' with babies/toddlers now because the horrors of those stages have passed for me now thank fuck and also rather lenient when judging the actions of children aged 6 and up because I have no RL experience of how mature you'd expect them to be and what the various stressors in their lives are. I am noticeably more judgy with children near the ages of my own kids (on here - not in RL as I'd feel too mean).
I've been wondering whether we are more likely to judge the actions of babies/toddlers/primary schoolers/teenagers harshly when we have kids near that age ourselves, because we are emotionally closer to it. AIBU to think that the age of your own kids may have a bearing on how you judge other kids of the same age?
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....to think that most posters vary their MN judgements according to the age(s) of their own children?
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LaContessaDiPlump · 23/11/2015 11:28
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