Goddaughter S remarried several years ago. She has 2 DCs from her first marriage and 1 DC from her second. Her DH has 1 DC the same age as S's oldest. They live some distance away and I only see her and the DCs when she visits her parents. I've only met her DH and his DC a handful of times over six years.
I've never bought presents for her DSC and neither have her DH's extended family and friends bought presents for her DC from her first marriage. The grandparents on both sides do - they know all the DCs well and see all of them a lot.
Her older DCs are of an age when they want to choose their presents so I send S an amazon voucher to be split 3 ways. She buys a present and wraps it from us for her youngest. The older DCs always let me know what they've bought and she tells me what she's bought for her youngest. I sent a voucher last week.
This year she's told me that she and her DH will be splitting the voucher 4 ways to include DSC because her DH's extended family (religious) have agreed that Christmas has got out of hand and all will be making "substantial" charity donations from now on with a token present for DCs. This agreement does not include the grandparents who will be as generous as they always are.
I'm not really happy about this because the older DCs know exactly how much I send and may well think I'm being a bit mean this year. And I think she should have asked first.
Bit of a back story, her DH has a habit of being a bit mean to S's DCs and obviously favours his DC in all ways to the point that she has threatened to leave him. So I don't think it was her decision to split the money.
Reading back, I probably am being U and a bit petty. But I like to choose who I buy presents for.
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NewnameforSunday · 22/11/2015 09:03
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