Woke up the other day to a massive email from MIL basically telling me how much I've annoyed her these past few years.
Bit of background: we rent their house from them, just over half of wages goes on the rent. (The house is mortgage free) they rent in another area and our rent pays there's really, they have to add 150 to theirs. (I'd love to only pay 150 rent tbh!) when I moved in they had chickens which has dug up the whole garden. I asked if we could rehome them as they were attracting countless rats due to the feed, this seemed OK and reasonable to me? I also wanted a garden for my children if we were paying 100s in rent..they also left their dog behind, I was under the impression we would look after the dog until they moved somewhere that accepted pets, they were under the impression that seen as we had the house cheap we'd basically keep the dog. I didn't want to for several reasons, the dog hair was never ending, I was pregnant with second DC and I didn't want to work my life around a dog tbh. I couldn't go out on days out really as I always had to get back to the dog. (rent is 100-200 cheaper than market rate) they took the dog to their house and all was fine, their LL was ok with that. She wants to raise the rent by £100 and to start it in Jan, I don't have a problem with this but I did ask if it could start in Feb as Jan would be when I would have an operation which I have been waiting for for months..I would need 4-6 weeks recovery and DP wouldn't get paid in that time. Al I said I was a bit worried..(that's when the massive email was sent)
Another thing she noted was car seats (I have posted on MN about this before!) I stayed I wanted DS to remain rear facing as long as possible as I had recently found out it was safer, she completely ignored me and bought a forward facing one. I also said I'd like a high back booster for DD, again this was completely ignored and she was put on a booster cushion. I hastens to add I did offer to pay for the car seats! My sister dropped my DD off and she had a booster cushion due to the fact that my DD regular seat didn't fit well in her car. (we later found out it was the headrest causing the issue and now DD uses her HBB in her car as well) this greatly annoyed MIL and she insisted I was doing some amateur dramatics.
Another thing was a holiday she wanted us all to go on. I'd just had DD3 and didn't fancy flying three little ones over to Portugal, I also worried about he cost, they offered to pay for it all and this wasn't something I felt comfortable with, if it was say a week in Wales or something then it would of been different. I just didn't like the thought of travelling. I also offered to pay them back but they insisted we forget about it.
Apparently I've disrespected her, She said she knows different families have different values and I need to respect that? not quite sure what she means by that.
So AIBU? Have I acted horribly? I have always made a point of saying thank you for anything they have OFFERED to us, we've never asked them...
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AIBU?
To think whilst I may have not behaved perfectly, they're the ones being unreasonable?
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