I am very aware of how utterly selfish this is going to sound, and I think it's a direct indicator of how numb I am at the moment.
I have been planning this social event for over three months. Venue is booked, I'm spending the day putting the food together with two friends tomorrow, I have very little money at the moment so decorations and the like were bought on a very thin budget. This event is important to me because over this last year I've barely seen any of my friends and this will give me a chance to reconnect with them.
My ex-employer has texted me this morning to tell me that her elderly father has finally passed on. She wants me to go to them now. I really don't want to.
To explain, their family were in crisis from last December and I more or less dropped my entire life to help them, hence why I have barely seen my friends. I took care of their children day in and out on top of my day job and in a lot of ways went above and beyond what could be expected of me. It had a severe knock-on effect towards my social life, my family life and eventually my mental and physical health. Recently, having left my day job, I was informed by them that I wouldn't be needed as much for the next year and pretty much dismissed.
I am really resentful of being asked to drop everything again. I won't be able to leave my home until late anyway as I live rurally and I need to wait for a lift, said lift won't be here until late tonight. And tomorrow was supposed to be my food prep day, I would be fine with going to sit with the kids for a while but I just know that if they say I can leave by four, I won't be able to leave until six or later. They have done that to me so many times before. Saturday is completly out unless I cancel the event and lose the money I paid for the venue or bring the kids with me, which I've had to do in the past and don't want to do again. Sunday is doable but the fact that I haven't dropped everything will likely mean a load of PA nonsense being thrown at me.
She has a husband, she has friends, she has a brother, it's not like she has nobody or I'd be more understanding. As it is I can't help feeling really angry about this and I hate that I feel this way.
Can anybody tell me how best to handle this?
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Freakingthefeckout · 19/11/2015 13:23
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