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Facebook; what do you think, no nasty comments

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JeffVadersMum Tue 17-Nov-15 07:58:02

Has anyone seen much of this on Facebook;

People posting photos with stuff they have made or outfits they've put together with a "what do you think, no nasty/negative comments"

Now I'm not going to put a nasty comments, but if you're asking for feedback surely you must expect someone not to like that purple red and green monstrosity that you've thrown together in the dark. ...?

Is it the stealth boast of fb?

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes Tue 17-Nov-15 08:15:20

It means, "Compliment meee! Pay attention to meee!! Tell meee how great I am!!"

VulcanWoman Tue 17-Nov-15 08:16:26

I wouldn't give a positive comment even if I liked it, due to that comment. Dictating what people can write.

NigelLikesSalad Tue 17-Nov-15 08:18:20

Perhaps it means for constructive feedback to be given - 'might look good in pink/green or with slightly longer hemline .....' rather than someone saying 'I wouldn't be seen dead in that pile of shite'.

VulcanWoman Tue 17-Nov-15 08:40:30

Yeah, but would you even risk saying that, I don't think they're looking for constructive comments.

JeffVadersMum Tue 17-Nov-15 08:44:26

I saw one reply to one of these

"please dont be mad but" I was shock

RaptorInaPorkPieHat Tue 17-Nov-15 08:54:39

I've seen a few of these but it normally refers to glittery shit or those godawful sweet tree things.

I'd guess with clothes/outfits it could be more of a "don't tell me I'm fat" type thing, but who knows.

TheOriginalMerylStrop Tue 17-Nov-15 08:59:52

I would think it's just today's version of ringing up your mate and asking what they are wearing to go out?

But if you are posting on social media and have to say "no nasty comments" then you probably have the wrong friends

SirChenjin Tue 17-Nov-15 09:02:53

I think it means 'could you be constructive in your comments rather than telling me it looks shit'. Seems fair enough. Think of it like AIBU versus Chat or Relationships.

kerbs Tue 17-Nov-15 09:04:44

I read it on here all the time, "First time poster, so go easy on me"

And of course MNetters go easy as she asked nicely.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Tue 17-Nov-15 09:16:41

All face book is is a place for people to brag. That's why I have nothing to do with it. I've never been a bragger, nor am I rightly or wrongly particularly interested interested in the achievements of others. I have my own achievements and accomplishments
Now on to your question. If they're not adult enough to be able to face facts that not everyone will think the outfits they have made or cakes they have baked are the best thing since sliced bread then, why ask opinions.
I think that proves me point about fb being nothing more than a braggers community.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Tue 17-Nov-15 09:18:48

Now if they said. Constructive criticism only please . Then that would be fine.
I'm not saying people should be given a verbal beating.

SirChenjin Tue 17-Nov-15 09:28:28

FB isn't a place for people to brag - bit of a sweeping statement! It's used in many different ways by different people and groups.

Wiki definition of constructive criticism - Constructive criticism is the process of offering valid and well-reasoned opinions about the work of others, usually involving both positive and negative comments, in a friendly manner rather than an oppositional one. (i.e. nasty/negative comments comes under the banner of oppositional, therefore she means constructive criticism only please. Fair dos.)

JeffVadersMum Tue 17-Nov-15 09:30:08

"'could you be constructive in your comments rather than telling me it looks shit" i wish they would post this instead!

SirChenjin Tue 17-Nov-15 09:38:51

Perhaps the posters just assume everyone knows that they mean constructive comments rather than 'it looks shit' comments?

JeffVadersMum Tue 17-Nov-15 09:45:13

Perhaps the poster could not assume that at all, because when i read it "no negative comments" I read it as, only say nice things, dont say it look crap

WhataRacquet Tue 17-Nov-15 09:46:20

I'm not on Facebook but I would comment "it's positively shite"

SirChenjin Tue 17-Nov-15 10:19:01

If I couldn't find anything constructive to say I'd just keep quiet - unless I didn't like the person, in which case I wouldn't have them on FB.

JeffVadersMum Tue 17-Nov-15 10:29:07

I'm talking about people in groups, like wedding or craft ones, not friends

Freya15 Tue 17-Nov-15 10:33:29

Facebook in my opinion is over rated. Everyone uses the site differently. But most unfortunately do use it for ego boosts.
I deleted mine. Was sick of seeing what people had made for their tea or profile pictures of themselves with the 'trout pout'.
Symphathy posts on how ill they supposed to be..yet could find the energy to sit on fb for hours!
Harbours negativity....cyber bulling in all ages and gender.

As for the question in hand, why ask a question if your not prepared for a honest answer??
These types of Facebookers should find other ways in entertaining themselves.

SirChenjin Tue 17-Nov-15 10:41:34

Even in groups, if you can't say something constructive don't say anything at all.

FB is fantastic for keeping in touch with friends and relatives you don't see that often. If you're page is being over run by people posting photos of their tea then you have a number of options - lose the friend, hide their posts, unfriend them. No big deal,

violetsarentblue Tue 17-Nov-15 10:46:10

Anybody who posts photos of themselves all the bloody time is obviously in love with themselves and IS fishing for compliments.

''Aw, you look beautiful''
''No I don't''
''Aw you do''
''No I don't''
''I think you do''
''Aw thanks babes, so do you''

It's a pathetic little look at me game
Most of your facebook friends randoms are really thinking, ''what a big headed, shallow tosser'' (nobody how many 'likes' you get) grin

Why don't these people try working on their personalities? confused

violetsarentblue Tue 17-Nov-15 10:47:06

no matter how many 'likes' you get.

SirChenjin Tue 17-Nov-15 10:53:38

'Unfollow Selfie Fiend'


'Hide Selfie Fiend'


badtime Tue 17-Nov-15 10:53:41

I don't recognise the facebook people post about on MN. I only friend people I like, and people I like aren't dicks.

Groups can be tricky, but if someone posted asking for opinions but only good ones, I would ignore them.

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