For gods sake

[FfsJustStop]

I'm in my final year at uni, doing quite a tough course. I'm finding it difficult and have just returned to my uni city after a year abroad so still settling back in/trying to juggle uni with working evenings and weekends as well as (free time permitting) reconnecting with friends who I have not seen since before the year abroad.

Another friend of mine moved to my uni city about 6 weeks ago, to start a job. We see each other most weeks but not really weekends as that as it is the only time I have to knuckle down and do work. She invited me to a few weekend events this week but then seemed quite offended when I said politely that I'd normally love to but was trying to aim for clear weekends for the time being; in a few months' time though I'll be free as a bird and that's what's keeping me going! I'm obviously happy to see her at other times and of course go back to normal after exams are over!

Aib a bad friend? We see each other at least once a week despite living in different parts of the city and are in contact most days. She doesn't have many friends here and has said that she's hurt I don't see her more. I feel quite upset: it's not by choice! I would if I could. I'm a bit annoyed too that she can't see my side of things and is just thinking of herself

[Senpai]

If she's truly a friend she will understand that final year of uni is the year you need to throw your social life out the window so you can buckle down and secure a job/internship before you graduate.

[FfsJustStop]

Thanks. I thought that too but she just seems hurt/annoyed sadly. She met me today in a bad mood, accusing me of not being supportive when she moved here and not helping her settle in - apparently I should have invited her to do things multiple times a week, let's ignore the fact I have a job and am studying for a degree... Oh yes and other friends

[2111146a]

Agree with senpai that you should focus on what is important. She needs to understand that.

[ArghMeHeartiesss]

Perhaps she does feel a bit pushed aside though OP. Try and talk to her about it maybe xx

[BaronessSamedi]

is she jealous that you're at uni, possibly?
i had a friend like that who was not the sharpest tool in the box not academically suited and she really resented the rest of us getting into uni.