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To publicly embarres these so called adults...

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Bookeatingboy Sun 15-Nov-15 23:27:27

I know it's probably childish but this has been bothering me since yesterday and my ds7 is also very bothered by what he heard... which is more important than me being so.

He plays for a local team and yesterday was awarded man of the match from the team's manager. I could hear a conversation going on as he did this but didn't quite catch what was being said. DS asked me today if some of the grown ups were not happy because he got this award, when I asked him why he thought this, he said I just got the feeling from what they were saying and no one said well done to me. Clearly the conversation I was not quite hearing was related to this but ds was nearer to them so heard them.

Part of me wants to post on the clubs FB page to say that these so called adults should be ashamed of making a 7 year old feel as though he didn't deserve an award, and to remind them that it was neither he nor I who decided who should get the award. And furthermore it's just a game...!

MissFitt68 Sun 15-Nov-15 23:29:57

No, not on Facebook. I wouldn't.

OnTheEdgeToday Sun 15-Nov-15 23:30:57

I can understand why you would want to, but if i were you i would rise above it.
Tell your son he got the man of the match because he deserved it. They only give it to those who deserve it. Anybody who is unhappy about it is obviously saddened that their child didnt.

The chances of these people actually feeling ashamed about it, is very slim. Otherwise they wouldnt have been thinking that way in the first place.

It is sad that people are so competitive and cannot be happy for other people doing well out of pure jealousy and bitterness.

BumpTheElephant Sun 15-Nov-15 23:35:39

They probably haven't given it any more thought. If you bring it up you'll just remind them and turn it into an issue. They'll probably then bitch about you too. They sound like arseholes but your ds won man of the match because it was felt he deserved it, that's all that matters. I'm very sorry that some twats made him feel they didn't think he deserved it but their opinion doesn't matter so ignore it and tell him to do the same.

theycallmemellojello Sun 15-Nov-15 23:38:16

Who were these men? Why on earth would they care which seven year I old boy won player of the day? It seems unlikely that they were talking about this.

Floralnomad Sun 15-Nov-15 23:43:27

Just tell your DS that the manager decides who gets it ,it's nobody else's business . If you want to take it further you are better off just having a quiet word with the manager about what you / your DS heard .

Bookeatingboy Sun 15-Nov-15 23:43:41

I know you're all right, I'm just so sad for ds. I've told him his thoroughly deserved the award and that was all that matters.

These nobs have taken away his joy at winning the award and that's not on, especially when the two guys involved both have a son who have won it previously and both me and ds have congratulated them but neither of them or their sons had the decency to do the same for ds.


AtrociousCircumstance Sun 15-Nov-15 23:46:53

Some people are just arseholes. It's always a bit of a shock isn't it? If you yourself consistently try to behave with decency.

Fuck them.

Congratulations to your DS!

arethereanyleftatall Sun 15-Nov-15 23:48:21

But you didn't hear what was said?

Nettletheelf Sun 15-Nov-15 23:48:47

Sorry OP, but you're as bad as the adults allegedly grudging your son his award. Which I'm sceptical about. He's seven! Disconnect a bit. Only pour out your feelings about the imagined slight to your seven year old on social media if you want to look mad.

Actually, that's the sort of thing that Dawn Ward (of the Real Housewives of Cheshire renown, and who is in court for attacking Sinitta with a table napkin - I have not made that up) would do, so let that be a warning!

Bookeatingboy Sun 15-Nov-15 23:48:57

Oh they were talking about ds for sure they were both at it on the clubs FB page today too. Not directly of course but words like "wrong choice made yesterday" and "lots of praise needed for thee lad who they thought should have got it"

I know I need to rise above it though... They are just bullies, but shouldn't we stand up to them?

GruntledOne Sun 15-Nov-15 23:50:59

It it worth putting something on FB just thanking those concerned for the award and thanking the club for all they have done to help your son along? I always think the best response to bad manners is the demonstration of what good manners look like.

OnTheEdgeToday Sun 15-Nov-15 23:53:34

Sometimes you just have hold your head up high and let them make a fool of themselves.
Your son got it. They arent happy for a child to win something, then they are publicly displaying dont need to do anything

scatterthenuns Sun 15-Nov-15 23:53:52

You won't embarrass anybody by posting on Facebook.

What you will do is cause them to be embarrassed for you. It is terribly poor taste to air your grievances in public on social media, and I would cringe on your behalf if I saw that.

arethereanyleftatall Sun 15-Nov-15 23:54:24

Re your 3rd post,
Goodness that's odd and totally ott for a 7 year olds match.

Just for the record, I play for a team and we give mom fir all sorts of reasons - not necessarily best player. I wonder if they're not aware of how it's awarded? Mind, they should never have behaved like that regardless.

OurBlanche Sun 15-Nov-15 23:57:18

Just 'Like' the fb posts - then they will know you have seen them, as will everyone else. See whether they have the balls to apologise.

madwomanbackintheattic Sun 15-Nov-15 23:58:21

They clearly think that their seven year olds are playing for Man U. Their continued bitching is just making them look silly. (I am slightly boggled about their being a fb page for the team though. Surely it's just a 'kick off at 4, parents please be there at 3.30' sort of page, not really a place for parents fans to discuss the rights and wrongs of the game?)
Funny they are taking it so seriously. And a bit sad. A well done and move on to the next one would have been far more sensible given the circumstances.
And of course you shouldn't post on fb. It's a shame when this stuff is tarnished for our kids, but really in a couple of weeks he will have forgotten all about it. Just reassure him and move on.

Bookeatingboy Mon 16-Nov-15 00:03:57

Thanks for the measured responses (well apart from nettle)

I won't say anything, you're all right, just rise above and move on.

DS is loving his football and I won't do anything to spoil this for him.

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