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Lemon666 Sun 15-Nov-15 22:12:57

My DB and SIL have just left their two kids (11 and 12 years old) home alone for three days. They went 10 hours drive from home.

Mintyy Sun 15-Nov-15 22:15:04

Well yes that sounds bad. What are you going to do about it?

Candypops14 Sun 15-Nov-15 22:15:20

Can you go and make sure there ok or invite them to stay at yours? Do they seem ok on their own-although I don't think I'd leave my children that she on their own

Sparkletastic Sun 15-Nov-15 22:16:24

DB or not I would report them to Social Services for neglect

Only1scoop Sun 15-Nov-15 22:16:17

That's awful.

What are your intentions.

Could they have stayed with you?

Lemon666 Sun 15-Nov-15 22:16:46

Can't do anything about it as they live abroad where it is totally legal to leave children at any age. Just so mad about it.

JeffsanArsehole Sun 15-Nov-15 22:17:44

Obviously you call social services

If you don't it just condones it

TurnOffTheTv Sun 15-Nov-15 22:18:21

Police? Which country?

laffymeal Sun 15-Nov-15 22:18:25

The law's a bit woolly on this. Personally I think they've been irresponsible, selfish cunts but not sure if they've broken the law.

JeffsanArsehole Sun 15-Nov-15 22:18:24

X posted

Where abroad?

Really unlikely if it's in Europe it's legal

Lemon666 Sun 15-Nov-15 22:18:43

It's the US in a state where it's not illegal to leave children

laffymeal Sun 15-Nov-15 22:19:25

Just seen they're not in UK, not a lot you can do then.

KeepOnMoving1 Sun 15-Nov-15 22:19:31

Yanbushock they are far too young to be left alone for that length of time.

TurnOffTheTv Sun 15-Nov-15 22:19:59

I'm sure there will still be some authorities you can contact, child services?

TurnOffTheTv Sun 15-Nov-15 22:20:39

I'd ring the local police department to them and get advice

Lemon666 Sun 15-Nov-15 22:21:10

Apparently they can cook and fend for themselves. Never known such selfish people. Seriously finished with them. I'm at the point where I don't want to speak to them again

Pipbin Sun 15-Nov-15 22:21:04

Presuming that you are too far away to go there, and therefore haven't seen them, how do you know?

Lemon666 Sun 15-Nov-15 22:21:24

I've looked into it, it's not illegal.

Lemon666 Sun 15-Nov-15 22:22:10

Because they told my parents tonight.

Pipbin Sun 15-Nov-15 22:24:00

You are right, it seems it's not illegal, ages differ depending on the state.
everydaylife.globalpost.com/child-home-alone-laws-california-3166.html

Are you sure there was no one looking after them?

TurnOffTheTv Sun 15-Nov-15 22:24:38

But surely you can just ring the local police just for clarification? They might go and check on them?

annandale Sun 15-Nov-15 22:24:59

I wouldn't cut off contact with them because I think the kids need their extended family to stay in touch.

Can you find an excuse to send the children a card each in the next few days/weeks? With your phone number on it maybe? See if you can speak to them next time you're in touch? just let them know you are around.

Lemon666 Sun 15-Nov-15 22:25:08

They may have friends popping in and they're close to their neighbours.

steff13 Sun 15-Nov-15 22:26:15

I'd call social services anyway. In my state, there's no "official" age at which it's legal to leave kids home alone; it's supposed to be common sense and what is considered reasonable. Authorities here would be unlikely to consider this reasonable...

TurnOffTheTv Sun 15-Nov-15 22:26:22

So there is definitely no adult with them overnight?

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