Have NC'd to protect DD. She is a great girl, Year 13 currently applying for Medical School but has been struggling with her weight, or rather her eating, for the last couple of years.
She has always been towards the top of the healthy range but now is very definitely overweight. Her clothes no longer fit and she has taken to wearing the same shapeless baggy stuff. We bought a lovely smart suit in the Summer sales for interviews (which will she have as part of the Uni application process) but it won't go near her now. She has stopped growing in height but is continuing to get bigger. Other extended family members have made comments to me and I am struggling to know what to do.
My gut feeling is that it seems to be a kind of addction. We eat sensibly at home, mostly home-cooked meals with puddings at weekends and just a yogurt or similar in the week. I have stopped buying biscuits but it doesn't help, she will almost gratuitously find things in the cupboards and make toast and jam, mug brownies (only needs flour, cocoa etc which I have for baking) and flapjacks and other high calorie stuff. I find empty bowls hidden in drawers weeks later! It is not just overeating, but almost as if she is in some kind of race to eat as much as possible. She will eat others' leftovers even after a big meal. I supposed the non-PC term is greed.
It really feels like a self-sabotaging addiction and I have started to think that if this was alcohol or drugs she was treating in this way I would force her to confront it. I have tried to encourage her to eat healthily now an again but generally have said nothing, but Sthis has obviously not helped as she continues to overeat and be miserable about it.
My final worry is her medical school application. She has worked so hard to get the grades she needs, work experience etc and wants to do nothing else as a dareer but I'm worried that she will be judged negatively by the interview panel as they might expect her to be healthy if she is going to go into medicine, knowing that obesity is a huge problem for our nation. Time is running out as she is likely to hav interviews after Christmas.
Everyone else in the family is a healthy average weight. I love her so much and feel that I am watching a slow train crash without doing anything to stop it. She is definitely unhappy but fets very defensive if I ever mention not e.g eating seconds when no one else is, which I rarely do.
Can anyone give me an insight into what to do?
I feel I'm being negligent to ignore it any longer.
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Is DD's weight issue an addiction I should tackle or ignore?
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Alittlegusty · 12/11/2015 12:41
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