To be pissed off with dp

[Lauren1983]

DP has been ill for the last 13 days with a cold. During that time he has gone to work but I have tried my best to look after him when he is at home. I've bought him different medicines, made him hot drinks, looked after DD while he slept etc.

I have now caught his cold. I had arranged to go out for a late lunch with my mum and felt well enough to go but as the afternoon went on I started to feel sick. I texted dp asking if he would pick me up instead of me getting the bus home and he texted that was ok. Unfortunately there was an accident on the road during his journey to pick me up. He text asking if I was waiting for him. I text back yes and he replied with ''you will be waiting''. To save him driving time I walked about 10 mins closer to home. When I got in the car he was annoyed that he had had to come and get me and didn't seem bothered I felt unwell.

Once we got home I started to feel better and cooked dinner etc. He has gone to bed as he has a very early start tomorrow. He asked me to get him a throat pastille and I said something like 'oh it's ok for me to look after you then''. I suppose I was being a bit PA. He the replied ''yeah you're happy as larry now'' implying (to me) that I was somehow faking feeling ill earlier.

AIBU to think asking your partner to pick you up when you are ill is not a big request?

[HackerFucker22]

Asking a partner to pick you up when you are not ill should be no big request?

[cuntycowfacemonkey]

What Hacker said.

[SurlyCue]

Oh he a knobber. Whats wrong with picking someone up if you can? why was he humping about it?

[SurlyCue]

Do you know the more i read on MN the more i realise so many people are in relationships with people that dont even like them. Would he grump if a mate had asked him for a lift?

[Lauren1983]

He was annoyed partly that the journey had taken twice as long and partly annoyed that he had to come out and get me. If the accident hadn't happened it probably would have been ok.

[SurlyCue]

Well the accident wasnt your fault so why are you getting the shite for it? Is he generally just a grumpy sod.

[Lauren1983]

He's not generally grumpy. In a lot of ways he will put himself out to help others.

[SurlyCue]

But begrudges doing it for you? The one person he at one point liked so much he decided to share his life with? Thats a bit backwards isnt it?

[ShamefulPlaceMarker]

He's milked a cold for 13 days!

[WhimsicalWinnifred]

A cold for 13 days??? Hmmmm. Possible but not common?!

He's probably not at all annoyed about having to come get you, more about the traffic and time taken. He's just bad at explaining it?

[Lauren1983]

@ WhimsicalWinnifred - Yes you are probably right and it's the traffic that was the problem. I'm just upset at the lack of concern that I was unwell.

[CaspoFungin]

Doesn't sound like you were unwell, I think perhaps you were just feeling unloved and like you wanted a bit of attention/affection. He was being unreasonable to not give you any, sounds like he just needs to be a bit kinder.