My mother has two siblings, a sister and a brother. The brother (my uncle) married someone 13 years older than him, they have been married for 30 years and while they don't have any children together, she has five from a previous marriage. My Uncle and aunt live clear cross the country. My grandmother has never met my Aunt's children, who were all adults living on their own when my aunt and Uncle married, they live all over the world. My uncle did not adopt them.
There was never any bad blood between my grandmother, my aunt or her children. Since her children were all adults living all over the world, they never met my grandmother. There was just never any time for everyone to all get together, and being adults, quite naturally I don't think there was any interest on the children's parts - or on my grandmother's either really.
When my grandmother was discussing her estate, she told my uncle that the four of us grandchildren (myself and my brother; & my two cousins by my mother's sister) were going to get a an inheritance from her. My uncle had a full strop because my grandmother was not going to give any of her estate to his wife's children. She had never even met them...if they had been interested I'm sure she would have, but traveling cross country to meet their mother's new mother in law just wasn't practical.
Now that my grandmother is gone, my uncle still holds it against his mother that his wives' children did not inherit from her. We each got a nice amount ($20K US). Do you think this was U of my grandmother? Aside from of course she could do what she wanted with her money, would this even occur to you that she should have left them something, given the fact she never even met them? I don't think she was BU but I'd never mention it to my uncle, I think he will hold it against his mother the rest of his days.
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TowerRavenSeven · 10/11/2015 23:43
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