Having been with DP for 5 years, we are now 28 and we have seen almost all of our friends get married and now start having babies.
I have never really been that fussed about weddings etc but happiness is infectious and seeing all of our friends get married over the last few years has finally bitten through what I thought was my fairly robust skin on this and made me want to do it too.
I have never been "anti-marriage" per se but I have never really expressed interest in it before. Similarly with having kids. DP has in the past - I know he wants to get married and have kids, but I don't think he really has a grasp on the concept of body clocks etc etc so I don't think he feels it as acutely as I do.
I am a bit traditional in that I would really like a proposal to be a surprise so I don't want to drop hints - I also think doing that seems a bit desperate and I want him to want to marry me because he wants to rather that because he is pressured... but I don't think it will happen otherwise.
DP isn't really the type of buy me a present other than at birthdays and xmas, and he isn't the type to save for anything other than his next holiday (we just had one so no savings left). I doubt he would do it any time soon anyway as his sister is engaged and getting married in July 2017 - the wedding chatter is constant and I know that she would consider it a heinous crime for anyone to steal her thunder.
I guess I am just a bit disappointed that I have finally come round to this and DP has backed off. I'm also worried about fertility if he doesn't do it soon as he has said in the past that he wont have kids til his is marries (v traditional Christian family). Sigh.
AIBU to feel like this or am I just being self-centred/stupid?
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goggleboxismygod · 10/11/2015 15:09
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