Today is 2 years since my Mum died. She had cancer, she was 61, it goes without saying that it was horrendous, plus I had two DCs under 3 when she died and felt pulled in all directions. Now the grief doesn't feel quite as raw as it did then but any kind of anniversary, birthday, celebration, etc, is a trigger for a major meltdown on my part.
Last year her one year anniversary coincided with a weekend and I was able to spend the whole weekend with my Dad and wider family, which was great. This year it was a Monday, and given that I live in a foreign country I didn't travel back to the UK to be with my family.
My DH knew it was today - I spent Friday night in floods of tears, Saturday evening I got upset again. This morning he didn't say anything to me but I didn't think much of it given that mornings are a bit manic. During the day I got loads of lovely messages including beautiful messages from both my MIL and bro-in-law (DH's brother) but nothing from DH. Then I got home with the DCs and DH started an argument with me about whether we should give DS2 soup for his dinner or not.
I mean I'm not asking for much, but a but a bit of recognition that today is fucking hard for me wouldn't go amiss. I swear that he might not have referred to Mum at all but my aunt phoned and he answered the phone, so was reminded of it by her. He loved my Mum and is a great DH in most other ways, but I can't believe his almost total lack of empathy today.
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Margie32 · 09/11/2015 20:33
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