I'm 22, just graduated and back home for a few months after finishing uni. Money's tight right now as I'm trying to study three/four days a week so bringing in about £70 a week, enough to live on but not loads. I'm starting a job next summer which is pretty well paid and will mean i can leave home and fully support myself. So my point is that I've tried not to be a financial burden on my parents, and this is the first time since I was 18 that I've done this.
I supported myself throughout university, had a full-time gap year job which continued in summers and meant I could live pretty well on that along with the (quite small) student loan I received. My parents were very kindly on hand to help with housing deposits but otherwise I was v happy to support myself and work throughout (as it should be).
My parents are quite well off and although they very rarely spend money on themselves they are generous but do not splurge. So while they haven't ever given me an allowance or anything, they would help me if I needed help and have said they will help with housing deposits in future which is very kind - my intention isn't to boast, just to say that they mean well.
Anyway. My dad is a bit more generous in this way than my mum and when I got paid back a housing deposit, he said I should keep it in my account "for emergencies". It's about £700 and very kind of him to do that.
I offered to pay the money back but he refused.
Months later, my mum is apparently really annoyed about it and asking for it to be "paid back". I'm very upset as I feel that I offered to give it back, he refused... And now she wants it back. I haven't spent it, it's still in my account, I'm quite frugal and living within my means. Just feel a bit put out, like I'm being accused of being on the take! I didn't even ask to keep the bloody money, it was given to me (very kindly I know) but why resent it after?! I've worked since I was 16 in an effort to be independent so it annoys me when it is implied that I'm a sponger (which is what I feel is being implied here)... Aibu???
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PippiWithTheBluestocking · 08/11/2015 15:45
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