I feel awful for writing this but has anyone ever decided to end their relationship with their mother? I have had my parents to stay for 10 days and as always it is fine at first but by the end my mum did her usual act of exploding with rage and venting all her pent up anger at me, reminding me of all my shortcomings. I do not pretend to be a perfect person or daughter, but i have tried for 39 years to placate my mum and not upset her, it is exhausting. I have 2 very young children and i would never stop them from seeing their grandparents, it's my issues, not theirs. Something has finally snapped this time however, i really don't have the energy anymore to pretend to get on with her or like her - and i feel like a totally awful person for saying that. I've listened to her bitch about people (even friends), analyse everything to the nth, have strong oppinions about EVERYTHING without fact or reasonable considerationand just generally be a gasbag. My father is a lovely man and we have (perhaps had) a good relationship but i know she is envious of this, to the point she didn't give us anytime alone to talk, i really wanted to ask my dad how he was in privacy as his brother died at the start of the year and we don't get to talk when my mum is there, we get talked over. He is a gentle man but my parents have been married a long time so his loyalties lie with his wife and i respect that.
It is obviously a lot more complex to the bare facts i have written, but Is it wrong to decide that it would make life a lot better if i didn't have to go through the motions? I have already told her i have had enough.
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pleaseletmesmile · 08/11/2015 14:09
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