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To not be responsible for others social lives!

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Faye12345 Fri 06-Nov-15 16:26:01

Hello. I am willing to accept IABU but i need views. I have a cousin 12 years old than me who i can describe as loud, inappropriate and a bit of a trouble maker but can be nice although im always on guard with her! In the past few months she has been contacting me on fb asking to do things together ie meals out etc. I really dont want to but feel bad and maybe i should just once? From her fb behaviour i can see why she falls out with people ie. Over familiarity on public profiles and silly statuses aimed at people. Other cousins refuse to have her on fb but now shes on mine i would feel cruel deleting or blocking her!

NoodleNuts Fri 06-Nov-15 16:39:39

Eh? How does being Facebook friends make you responsible for others social lives? If you want to go out with her, do it. If you don't, then don't - simples.

DamnBamboo Fri 06-Nov-15 16:41:21

Why cant' you just go out for dinner if you think she's nice enough?
If she acts like a tit, don't do it again.

Faye12345 Fri 06-Nov-15 16:42:01

Hi sorry if i wasnt clear i was explaining her general behaviour and lack of social life due to this. I cant help but feel guilty when i say no repeatedly or ignore her messages!

Cabrinha Fri 06-Nov-15 16:43:34

You don't want to go out with her don't.
You don't want her on fb, don't have her on fb.
She's not making you responsible for her social life, she's asking you to go out.
So just say no.

You know you're supposed to be over 13 to have fb, right? wink

MildVirago Fri 06-Nov-15 16:44:09

I'm not getting why you think you're being made 'responsible for others' social lives' either. She's asked you if you want to do things together - either accept or refuse, surely?

Faye12345 Fri 06-Nov-15 16:46:25

Thanks for the comments and im well over 13

ssd Fri 06-Nov-15 16:52:00

agree with noodle

laffymeal Fri 06-Nov-15 16:55:40

What's your dilemma exactly? Nothing suggest that she or anyone else thinks you're "responsible for her social life" delete her if she's getting on your nerves, who would care?

gpignname Fri 06-Nov-15 17:02:52

I think what you are saying is that you feel a bit sorry for her as she doesn't seem to have a good social life, possibly as she is socially a bit awkward or immature and you are worried she is contacting you and will want you to socialise with her all the time.
By the sounds of it, it might be nice if you did see her occasionally - but no, you should not feel as if you have see her all the time if you don't want to. I think on FB you don't have to block her completely but you can limit what she can see on there so she doesn't feel completely dropped.

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