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Should men post on mumsnet ?

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jaffacake2 · 01/11/2015 13:06

Just wondering what other people think about men posting on mumsnet. I have been reading threads which men have contributed to and some are very funny but some are slightly concerning.
The man who wrote about his disastrous OLD was very amusing. It was great to read about awful dates from a male perspective. But there was also a sex thread about whether it was unreasonable to be asked to just show your boobs so your partner can masturbate regularly. The thread was going well until a man joined giving his personal thoughts on needs of men. The thread slowed and I felt that women had been intimidated by his opinions. Maybe not but would welcome a discussion about men being onsite.
Perhaps it should be renamed people net rather than mumsnet

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PurpleDaisies · 01/11/2015 13:08

Well people who aren't mums are allowed to post. I wouldn't have an issue with a man posting.

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AuntieStella · 01/11/2015 13:09

Most of the time I don't know who is male or female. Unless they self-identify.

Does contents of pants actually matter? Isn't it more about what someone writes?

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 01/11/2015 13:10

There are many posters who aren't mums on here. Shouldn't they be allowed to post either?

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noeffingidea · 01/11/2015 13:10

Yes , of course they can, why shouldn't they?
Any questionable posts can be reported to the mods. In any case, I could be a man pretending to be a woman, any of us could. It's an anonymous forum.

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PurpleDaisies · 01/11/2015 13:10

Any poster behaving in a threatening way should be reported, regardless of their sex

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MardyBra · 01/11/2015 13:10

We've had this discussion lots.

the general conclusion is that

A) it's impossible to police who is posting from an anonymous keyboard

B). whilst the focus of MN is parenting we have people on here who are non-parents, TTC, working in childcare, general good eggs, including some dads or blokes.

C). Anyone should be able to post as long as they not being a dick.

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Shakey15000 · 01/11/2015 13:11

Of course men should be "allowed" Hmm

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DixieNormas · 01/11/2015 13:12

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InTheBox · 01/11/2015 13:12

Of course they should. As pointed out people that don't have children can post so why shouldn't men be allowed to either.

Tbh I just don't like it when they announce something like "I am a man, so from a man's perspective I think..." Hmm

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Tanith · 01/11/2015 13:13

Intrigued to read your suggestions on how to stop them...

Personally I'm not bother except for the lowlifes who stalk their partners in order to intimdate them into closing down what may be their only support.
They tend to be sussed by our more robust members, however Wink

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Arfarfanarf · 01/11/2015 13:13

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LibrariesGaveUsP0wer · 01/11/2015 13:14

Don't see why not.

Though you do see some posters struggling with the upheaval of the normal order and the female voice being dominant. That makes me laugh somewhat. Especially when they start with the "as a man..."

In short, as long as you accept it's mumsnet and not reddit, crack on.

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LunchpackOfNotreDame · 01/11/2015 13:14

Of course they should!

Anyone whose not a goady cunt should post

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Sighing · 01/11/2015 13:16

Of course they can. But I always Hmm about anyone claiming theirs is THE male perspective. I'd never think my opinion / experience was automatically shared by every XX on the planet.

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bloodyteenagers · 01/11/2015 13:17

How wouldn't be policed?
Every member have to sign up, then send documentation to proof they are a female parent?

Don't be so daft.

If you don't like that men post, then you are more than free to go and create your own site.

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GinAndSonic · 01/11/2015 13:17

I'm fine with men posting. So long as they aren't dickswinging and mansplaining.

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Pipbin · 01/11/2015 13:18

Of course they should. Anyone who can respect that we have this tiny corner of the whole internet sectioned off as a woman friendly space should be allowed to post.

I'm not a mother, but I still post here.

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Whathaveilost · 01/11/2015 13:21

No. They shouldn't go into Mothercare either!

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NameChange30 · 01/11/2015 13:21

jaffacake I was posting on the sex thread you're talking about. I think the problem with that poster isn't that he's a man, it's that he's an arsehole. There was another man who wrote a really great post challenging him. Unfortunately, he argued with Every. Single. Person. who challenged him. I concluded that the best option was to ignore him but others kept replying to him so he kept posting. All very annoying and it definitely derailed the thread. I don't know what the answer is because I don't think he broke any of the talk guidelines - none that I know of, anyway. Sadly the rule about not being an arsehole is more of an unofficial one!

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Enjolrass · 01/11/2015 13:24

Men should be allowed to post.

However dickheads of any gender should be reported and hopefully banned.

Anyone can be a dickhead. Banning men would not ban all dickheads.

And you can't ban men on the assumption that all men are dickheads.

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ladyrosy · 01/11/2015 13:25

They should be allowed, same as I wouldn't like to be banned from a forum just because my genitals are innies not outies.

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beefthief · 01/11/2015 13:25

I am a dachshund.

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jaffacake2 · 01/11/2015 13:28

Thanks AnotherEmma that was probably my conclusion about him !! And like everyone is saying it doesn't matter on the gender you can be an idiot man or woman !!
Think it just annoyed me that he had derailed the thread so threw in this topic

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Enjolrass · 01/11/2015 13:30

Think it just annoyed me that he had derailed the thread so threw in this topic

I have seen loads of threads derailed by women though too. It's shit but it happens unfortunately

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BathshebaDarkstone · 01/11/2015 13:31

I really like some of our male members Grin (I'm looking at you Andrewofgg)

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