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Should men post on mumsnet ?

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jaffacake2 Sun 01-Nov-15 13:06:31

Just wondering what other people think about men posting on mumsnet. I have been reading threads which men have contributed to and some are very funny but some are slightly concerning.
The man who wrote about his disastrous OLD was very amusing. It was great to read about awful dates from a male perspective. But there was also a sex thread about whether it was unreasonable to be asked to just show your boobs so your partner can masturbate regularly. The thread was going well until a man joined giving his personal thoughts on needs of men. The thread slowed and I felt that women had been intimidated by his opinions. Maybe not but would welcome a discussion about men being onsite.
Perhaps it should be renamed people net rather than mumsnet

PurpleDaisies Sun 01-Nov-15 13:08:58

Well people who aren't mums are allowed to post. I wouldn't have an issue with a man posting.

AuntieStella Sun 01-Nov-15 13:09:34

Most of the time I don't know who is male or female. Unless they self-identify.

Does contents of pants actually matter? Isn't it more about what someone writes?

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sun 01-Nov-15 13:10:02

There are many posters who aren't mums on here. Shouldn't they be allowed to post either?

noeffingidea Sun 01-Nov-15 13:10:08

Yes , of course they can, why shouldn't they?
Any questionable posts can be reported to the mods. In any case, I could be a man pretending to be a woman, any of us could. It's an anonymous forum.

PurpleDaisies Sun 01-Nov-15 13:10:21

Any poster behaving in a threatening way should be reported, regardless of their sex

MardyBra Sun 01-Nov-15 13:10:55

We've had this discussion lots.

the general conclusion is that

A) it's impossible to police who is posting from an anonymous keyboard

B). whilst the focus of MN is parenting we have people on here who are non-parents, TTC, working in childcare, general good eggs, including some dads or blokes.

C). Anyone should be able to post as long as they not being a dick.

Shakey15000 Sun 01-Nov-15 13:11:09

Of course men should be "allowed" hmm

DixieNormas Sun 01-Nov-15 13:12:53

I don't see why they shouldn't. Some men posting will be nobheads but then again so are some of the women

InTheBox Sun 01-Nov-15 13:12:56

Of course they should. As pointed out people that don't have children can post so why shouldn't men be allowed to either.

Tbh I just don't like it when they announce something like "I am a man, so from a man's perspective I think..." hmm

Tanith Sun 01-Nov-15 13:13:43

Intrigued to read your suggestions on how to stop them...

Personally I'm not bother except for the lowlifes who stalk their partners in order to intimdate them into closing down what may be their only support.
They tend to be sussed by our more robust members, however wink

Arfarfanarf Sun 01-Nov-15 13:13:44

yes. and women who are not mothers should also be allowed to post.

Basically, anyone who wants to post but is not a troll or a goady fucker has something valuable and interesting to contribute.

Most of the threads on here have got sweet fa to do with being a mum and don't require the experience of a mum to answer.

And it would not make commercial sense to spend time building up your brand and then rename it for absolutely no reason. It's not called mumsnet fuck off if you aren't a mum.

And exactly how would such a policy be policed? I tell you I am a mum of two. You know that I am telling the truth how?

And some of the worst trolls have actually been women. Mums. Some total scammers, some emotional vampires and some flat out psychos. All women. All mums. Many actually met other posters.

We have this come up regularly. The answer is always the same. Everyone welcome, number one rule - don't be a twat. Obey that and have fun.

LibrariesGaveUsP0wer Sun 01-Nov-15 13:14:02

Don't see why not.

Though you do see some posters struggling with the upheaval of the normal order and the female voice being dominant. That makes me laugh somewhat. Especially when they start with the "as a man..."

In short, as long as you accept it's mumsnet and not reddit, crack on.

LunchpackOfNotreDame Sun 01-Nov-15 13:14:28

Of course they should!

Anyone whose not a goady cunt should post

Sighing Sun 01-Nov-15 13:16:17

Of course they can. But I always hmm about anyone claiming theirs is THE male perspective. I'd never think my opinion / experience was automatically shared by every XX on the planet.

bloodyteenagers Sun 01-Nov-15 13:17:01

How wouldn't be policed?
Every member have to sign up, then send documentation to proof they are a female parent?

Don't be so daft.

If you don't like that men post, then you are more than free to go and create your own site.

GinAndSonic Sun 01-Nov-15 13:17:09

I'm fine with men posting. So long as they aren't dickswinging and mansplaining.

Pipbin Sun 01-Nov-15 13:18:02

Of course they should. Anyone who can respect that we have this tiny corner of the whole internet sectioned off as a woman friendly space should be allowed to post.

I'm not a mother, but I still post here.

Whathaveilost Sun 01-Nov-15 13:21:10

No. They shouldn't go into Mothercare either!

AnotherEmma Sun 01-Nov-15 13:21:25

jaffacake I was posting on the sex thread you're talking about. I think the problem with that poster isn't that he's a man, it's that he's an arsehole. There was another man who wrote a really great post challenging him. Unfortunately, he argued with Every. Single. Person. who challenged him. I concluded that the best option was to ignore him but others kept replying to him so he kept posting. All very annoying and it definitely derailed the thread. I don't know what the answer is because I don't think he broke any of the talk guidelines - none that I know of, anyway. Sadly the rule about not being an arsehole is more of an unofficial one!

Enjolrass Sun 01-Nov-15 13:24:43

Men should be allowed to post.

However dickheads of any gender should be reported and hopefully banned.

Anyone can be a dickhead. Banning men would not ban all dickheads.

And you can't ban men on the assumption that all men are dickheads.

ladyrosy Sun 01-Nov-15 13:25:04

They should be allowed, same as I wouldn't like to be banned from a forum just because my genitals are innies not outies.

beefthief Sun 01-Nov-15 13:25:39

I am a dachshund.

jaffacake2 Sun 01-Nov-15 13:28:38

Thanks AnotherEmma that was probably my conclusion about him !! And like everyone is saying it doesn't matter on the gender you can be an idiot man or woman !!
Think it just annoyed me that he had derailed the thread so threw in this topic

Enjolrass Sun 01-Nov-15 13:30:32

Think it just annoyed me that he had derailed the thread so threw in this topic

I have seen loads of threads derailed by women though too. It's shit but it happens unfortunately

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