I work 35 hours and have one ds who is nearly 5. I work from home 3-4 days a week and ds goes to cm for an hour or two after school so I get to pick him up at a reasonable time (4.30pm) on 2 days and my dh collects him from school 1 day and brings him home (where I'm working). On the other 1-2 days I work in London - a good 80 miles away so it's a train and takes maybe 2 to 2.5 hours door to door. My boss is very flexible around the hours I work when I'm in London. I love my job and career, but obviously my time with ds is precious. I'm not really a mum who chooses work over family. My family will always come first and my work and career decisions have always been made with a view to getting the right balance for me, dh and ds.
So my boss has emailed the team and suggested fortnightly after work drinks, starting on Tuesday evening. The team is really hard working and I doubt will be leaving before 5.30pm. Even if I got away from London at 6.30pm I won't get home until 8.30 - long after ds has gone to bed. I know he's fine with my dh and on the odd occasion I'm not averse to having a night out, but it's never a regular thing. As a rule I prefer to be home in time to say goodnight to ds. I don't really want to go on Tuesday, let alone more regularly, because it means I'll see ds for only about 10 mins before I have to leave for work in the morning. But it's a relatively new job and I don't want them to think I'm antisocial or whatever. It's just that either the people in the team are too young to have dc or older and their dc are therefore much older/ adults. I really like my team, they're all lovely so I feel I should make a bit of an effort especially as I work remotely from them most of the week.
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LittleLionMansMummy · 30/10/2015 10:55
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