Me and DH are 32/33 and have a 20 month old DS.
Our opinions on the thought of having a second DC change all the time (especially my thoughts) in that some days I ache for another child but then the next day I think about all the ways it would make life harder.
Out of the two of us I want a second DC more than my DH does (he would be happy with just DS) but a few weeks ago he said he was prepared to sit down and discuss us having another but we never got round to having the conversation. Maybe I'm putting it off because I know I still have some doubts and I don't want him to pick up on them.
There are lots of practical reasons why we perhaps shouldn't have another but there are also lots of reasons as to why I do want one.
My friend told me that unless I'm 100% sure about having another then I shouldn't do it, but that sounds a bit like a Fairy Tale to me as surely it's normal to have some worries about the momentous life changing event of having a child? Is any child conceived in a 100% worry-free, doubt-free scenario?
Me and DH had worries about trying for DC1 but we still went ahead with TTC because we wanted a baby.
I guess my point is there's never a perfect time to have a baby is there so sometimes you have to just go for it? I was once told that if people waited for the 'perfect time' then nobody would have babies.
Me and DH have spoken about it a few times but I think I need to sit him down and have a serious conversation about it rather than the light hearted chats we usually have about it during dinner.
I don't think I will ever be 100% worry-free about the idea of TTC again because of my worries about the practicalities of having two, but I don't think that just because we have some concerns it means we should never have another baby?
I don't want DS to be an only child and I don't want us to put off having another because of some anxieties and then wake up 5 years later and regret not having done it.
I guess I need to know that even in families where DC1/2/3 came along and it caused worry and difficulties it all turned out right in the end.
AIBU to want to TTC even though I have worries about being pregnant again and worries about how having a second child would impact on our life?
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Writerwannabe83 · 29/10/2015 17:23
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