I can't work out if my feelings about a situation are unreasonable or normal.
My husband has never been close to his brother or the rest of this family. His brother has been very unkind to my OH in the past and I saw the repercussions of that (hurt, mainly). The brother had an affair 3 years ago and left his wife (my SIL) when she was pregnant. I am godparent to their two children. He moved in with the OW quite quickly (she had another child from previous marriage). BIL abnd SIL are now divorced (less than a year) and BIL has a daughter with OW. Family relations are fairly tense but main situation is that MIL has becme very close to OW. SIL was very hurt by MIL behaviour after the separation and affair (having OW to stay in her house before they were divorced, etc), and I have a lot of sympathy for how she feels. As a result, ex-SIL and MIL no longer speak or communicate (there has been lots of 'blocking' on facebook, etc (life without facebook would be simpler!)
I have actively avoided meeting OW and her kids. We don't see BIL often anyway, and I have no interest in meeting this woman. I ensure my kids see their cousins via my ex-SIL and that is that. I don't want to become pally with the OW. For me it is too soon. I know that soon enough they will probably decide to get married (sigh...) and I am not sure what I will do about that. Maybe they will do something small anyway. Ex-SIL is still very hurt, angry and raw about it all and I really do feel for her. My OH couldn't give two hoots and travels constantly with work so any arrangements with his family are made by me.
Am I unreasonable?
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To not be interested in BIL's OW and think my MIL is being unfair on ex-SIL?
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MtnBikeChick · 28/10/2015 16:05
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