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Regarding mobile phones at funerals

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Imogenlasting Wed 28-Oct-15 12:43:01

I was at a funeral this morning. During the Mass four different mobiles rang despite the priest, after the first phone rang, mentioning it and, after the second phone rang, explicitly asking that phones be turned off.

I can understand that the first time it was simply someone who had forgotten to turn in off (although they let it ring and ring), but surely after that incident and the priest saying something, anyone with a phone in their bag or pocket would immediately think 'did I remember to switch it off'.

AIBU to wonder what is wrong with some people and surely, unless you have a relative having life saving surgery, there is no reason you can't switch your phone off for 45 minutes out of respect for a bereaved family?

TestingTestingWonTooFree Wed 28-Oct-15 12:44:23

Yep rude. In such circumstances mine is usually on silent and switched off and checked several times.

squoosh Wed 28-Oct-15 12:47:17

Inconsiderate not to put your phone on silent at a funeral.

Rude as hell not to put your phone on silent after a request to do so.

MissBattleaxe Wed 28-Oct-15 12:56:26

very very rude and disrespectful. If you can't give the deceased 45 minutes of undivided attention at their own funeral then it's a very sad state of affairs indeed.

Mintyy Wed 28-Oct-15 12:58:41

Yanbu. People are ignorant fuckers.

BondJayneBond Wed 28-Oct-15 12:59:28

YANBU.

Puzzledandpissedoff Wed 28-Oct-15 12:59:50

Yes it was incredibly rude. Granted we all make mistakes, but the trouble is that the boneheads who'll do something like this aren't exactly the ones who are going to take on board a suggestion to switch the bloody thing off

It's all about them, you see, and sod anyone else hmm

MrsJayy Wed 28-Oct-15 13:24:12

It is so rude phone on silent should enter their heads. I have seen facebook updates from a funeral im not even joking granted it was a young guy and i guess social media is there way but i was astounded at check ins and tagging of other funeral attenders. Was a distant relation of mine so some of it came up on my newsfeed

5Foot5 Wed 28-Oct-15 13:44:08

Incredibly rude. I think the correct response would be for the people sitting nearby to all turn and stare in utter disgust at the phone owner so that they realise what a faux pas they have made.

VinylScratch Wed 28-Oct-15 13:47:46

YANBU at all, last funeral I went to I left my phone in the car glovebox because I was paranoid it would malfunction even on silent and ring anyway. Why can some people not be separated from their bloody phone for 5 minutes.

expatinscotland Wed 28-Oct-15 13:48:13

Incredibly rude.

DamnCommandments Wed 28-Oct-15 13:50:01

I went to a funeral at which the chief mourner's phone rang. He'd deliberately left it on because his mother was very ill. "Was" being the operative word in this case.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Wed 28-Oct-15 13:56:46

it's incredibly rude!

however I'd say quite a large amount the vast majority of those with smart phones have very little idea of how to use them except for the basics, and any that do are so full of their own self importance they couldn't possibly silence them or switch them off for fear of missing something.

There are very very few circumstances where anyone needs to be INSTANTLY contactable and the sooner people realise this the better.

Topseyt Wed 28-Oct-15 14:15:36

Very rude indeed.

Mine is off or on silent on such occasions. My three teenage DDs complied with that too at their grandmother's funeral 18 months ago with no questions or arguments.

There is a time and a place to make or take personal calls, and a funeral is neither.

Janeymoo50 Wed 28-Oct-15 14:18:33

Disgusting, they should be thoroughly ashamed (but I doubt it).

ButterflyUpSoHigh Wed 28-Oct-15 14:30:06

Disgusting but normal these days. We attend mass every week and every week without fail a mobile goes off.

jeee Wed 28-Oct-15 14:38:57

At one funeral I went to, a phone went off. The phone's owner actually answered it, and had a hissed conversation... It was so inappropriate that I felt (equally inappropriate) laughter bubble up.

Fluffy40 Wed 28-Oct-15 14:53:58

I'd just leave mine in the car. I'm not addicted.

PestoSkiissimos Wed 28-Oct-15 14:56:29

I totally agree with you OP.

But, at DH's funeral 2 years ago I forgot and I had a text during the service. The worst thing was at the time I had "message from the dark side there is" in Yoda's voice for my notifications. I was very, very blush

Puzzledandpissedoff Wed 28-Oct-15 17:32:26

Even if there's genuinely a desperate need to remain in contact with someone (perhaps in case of illness) surely most phones can be set to vibrate instead of ring these days?

Certainly all the ones I've had can - and I'm a complete muppet with technology and have never felt the need for an all-singing, all-dancing phone

MorrisZapp Wed 28-Oct-15 17:40:13

I work in a public search room which has a rule that mobiles phones must not be used. It's written in big letters on every search passpass.

Yet every day there's at least one phone ringing merrily. Sorry to generalise but it's usually older people ie retired age who are the culprits.
They often don't know their own phone enough to a) recognise the ringtone b) switch the phone off and the apparently hardest thing of all, c) finding and using the ringer volume.

Same in the quiet carriage. They look confused, annoyed and irritated when asked to do anything with their phone rather than answer it.

I honestly think all mobile phone providers should talk people through how to use silent mode etc as so many don't even realise it's an option.

Andrewofgg Wed 28-Oct-15 17:40:18

Inconsiderate not to put your phone on silent at a funeral.

Wrong. Not on silent, O-F-F off!

Topseyt Wed 28-Oct-15 17:45:30

On silent is fine. That's what I do, and I never bother to even look at it until well after I get home again.

It doesn't have to be off.

ginslinger Wed 28-Oct-15 17:47:18

Being an old gimmer, i remember a time with no mobiles and we all managed fine. How long does the average funeral last? No more than an hour and you don't need to be contacted. We've become slaves to phones - they're for our convenience not the other way round.

<gets off soap box>

TSSDNCOP Wed 28-Oct-15 18:11:33

I believe this is amnesty the most rude, arrogant, disrespectful things a person can do. Who could you possibly be that is so important you interrupt a grieving families last moments.

I was at a funeral recently, at the commital a phone started ringing. Had it been mine I'd have thrown my body over my bag like a grenade and legged it. But nooooo Phonegirl rifled through her bag whilst the priest actually had to pause until she found it.

Family and friends were staggered the look I gave her didn't make her burst into flames. She WA slept j n doubt of my disgust after the service ether. Frankly I would have gladly stomped on the phone until it was in smithereeens.

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