best advice you have ever been given that you live by (most days)(192 Posts)
Going off another post....what is the best advice that you have received from parents (or anyone else really) advice that you live by and that you will pass on to your children/ friends etc.
1. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
2. Aim to have a wage that matches your age.
3. Always apologise for your part to play in arguments etc. Be the bigger person.
Can't say I always apologise but I do try.....hehe
This from my then elderly grandparents, now deceased. They lived through two world wars, lost all of their siblings and most friends in said wars, and had their house bombed to rubble in the second world war. 'Live every day as if it is your last. Don't sweat the small stuff.'
My dad contributed 'never trust a fart!'
A colleague advised when dealing with stressful life events, 'It'll pass', he was so right and this has helped me ever since.
And from my mother? 'Treat others as you would wish to be treated.'
Always take your makeup off before you go to bed
Never start a sentence with the word because
Always go to the toilet before you leave home
From my mum: 'If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.'
From my grandmother: 'Never go to bed on an argument, and never be too proud to say sorry.'
sometimes it's ok to just sit in the corner and look pretty - Julia Phillips
Be nice to people on the way up - you will need those people on the way down
you catch more flies with honey
and yes 'treat people as you would want to be treated'
From my driving instructor -always assume everyone else on the road is an idiot. I always anticipate people pulling out infront of me etc
My mum : "if you don't like something, walk away". Keeps me out of trouble.
My dad: "every day try to do better than you did yesterday. Be your own competition". Works in every aspect of life.
'Regret is a wasted emotion.'
I use that a lot as a working mother of 3 DC's - I do my best, it's not always good enough...and move on
Very much wish I could do the smile, nod and do my own thing but have a tendency to speak my mind. Not always a good thing!
Wonder if anyone will be worrying/talking about this in a years time.
For times of stress/change etc
Can help with perspective.
Those who mind, don't matter. Those who matter, don't mind.
"Don't drive faster than your Guardian Angel can fly"
"The ship is safe in the harbour, but that's not what ships are for"
And (from my Dad) if you're going to a job interview and you're nervous "Just imagine the interviewer sat doing his morning poo" That's a great leveller!
Of course all the best advice is in that Baz Luhrmann song (cut and pasted) :
Ladies and gentlemen of the class of '99
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it
The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists
Whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
Than my own meandering experience, I will dispense this advice now
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh, never mind
You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth
Until they've faded but trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back
At photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now
How much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked
You are not as fat as you imagine
Don't worry about the future
Or know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind
The kind that blindsides you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday
Do one thing every day that scares you
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts
Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours
Don't waste your time on jealousy
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind
The race is long and in the end, it's only with yourself
Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults, if you succeed in doing this, tell me how
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life.
The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their livesSome of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't
Get plenty of calcium
Be kind to your knees
You'll miss them when they're gone
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't
Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't
Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the 'Funky Chicken'
On your 75th wedding anniversary
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much
Or berate yourself either
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else's
Enjoy your body, use it every way you can
Don't be afraid of it or what other people think of it
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room
Read the directions even if you don't follow them
Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly
Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good
Be nice to your siblings, they're your best link to your past
And the people most likely to stick with you in the future
Understand that friends come and go
But a precious few, who should hold on
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
For as the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young
Live in New York City once but leave before it makes you hard
Live in northern California once but leave before it makes you soft
Accept certain inalienable truths
Prices will rise, politicians will philander, you, too, will get old
And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young
Prices were reasonable, politicians were noble
And children respected their elders
Respect your elders
Don't expect anyone else to support you
Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse
But you never know when either one might run out
Don't mess too much with your hair
Or by the time you're 40 it will look 85
Be careful whose advice you buy but be patient with those who supply it
Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past
From the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts
And recycling it for more than it's worth
But trust me on the sunscreen
My favourite came from my Nan.....'always listen to advice, don't always take it'
It will all be the same in a hundred years.
There is no such word as can't - was a favourite of my grandmother's.
Always do your best & do not worry if it is not enough - from my father.
But the most useful came from my driving instructor - never believe anyone's indicator unless you see it start!
For my early teens, from my Nana (to my mum's surprise) Always test drive before you buy - about the man in my life. I moved in with him, hated it, moved out... met DH 3 weeks later... still with him 30 years on.
Also, never go to sleep on an argument.
From my last boss... look 'em in the eye and lie! to be used on nosy colleagues asking why are you leaving.
From DH Say fuck it, and move on. We supported each other through a few fuck it moments when we first got together. He needed a reminder when his mum died. And again when his job disappeared, reappeared, disappeared... and over the last 2 years has reminded me, throwing me out of the house one morning telling me not to come back unless I had handed my notice in.
I tend to live by all of those now and life is more fun, more relaxed and so much more productive.
"The only things you can take with you when you leave this life, are the the things you have given away".
My college lecturer said this to my class at graduation last year, and I try to live by it every day.
My Dad's was great, when you have, what you think is a huge problem, think to yourself "will this matter in 2 years"
Be kind to yourself about past mistakes because:
You did the best you can with what you knew. Now you know better, you can do better.
I like the advice I give to myself - "Do something practical, it will make you feel better." Works every time.
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