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to expect a text after we slept together?

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BigOCupOfTea Sun 25-Oct-15 13:43:27

So I've been seeing a guy for around a month and we had our fifth date and I stayed at his and we slept together.

We both left early as he had work.

He would have finished work by now and I've heard nothing from him.

Am I expecting too much?

WorraLiberty Sun 25-Oct-15 13:46:27

Have you sent him a text?

MaliaGrace Sun 25-Oct-15 13:47:51

It depends - what was said this morning afterwards/when you were both getting ready to leave?

He may well have left work but it's not only 2pm. Before getting anxious, I'd at least wait a while longer.

PontyGirl Sun 25-Oct-15 13:49:19

Wait it out

Arfarfanarf Sun 25-Oct-15 13:54:56

What would normally happen? Would he normally have texted you by now? Is he not doing the things he was doing before you slept together or are you expecting him to do things he wasn't previously doing because you had sex?

BigOCupOfTea Sun 25-Oct-15 14:01:00

Well we usually text good morning

He also calls me when hes driving home from work as it usually takes him an hour to drive home.

WordsAreWind Sun 25-Oct-15 14:04:00

Why can't you text him? He could be thinking the exact same thing.

Arfarfanarf Sun 25-Oct-15 14:07:12

Ok. Well, he saw you this morning so he obviously wouldn't text you good morning so you're just talking about him not calling you when hes driving home from work? Would he normally do that if you had seen each other that same day?
Maybe it's too early for you to worry he's putting less effort in now he's had sex. Perhaps text him later and see what happens?
If he does seem to be backing off as soon as you've had sex then he's a toad.

Axekick Sun 25-Oct-15 14:08:13

You can't moan that he hasn't text you, since you haven't text him either.

This sort of thing baffles me.

There could be thousands of reasons he hasn't text you yet. Your sat wondering about it, so text him.

ICantThinkOfAUsernameH Sun 25-Oct-15 14:10:23

I'd wait a little while then text him?

HackerFucker22 Sun 25-Oct-15 14:10:36

So he rings you everyday when he drives home from work?

But today he hasn't?

It could be as he saw you this morning? I assume usually you don't stay over.

I'd personally wait a while.... you seem very preoccupied about it.

How were things left this morning? Surely you spoke to each other?

CurlyhairedAssassin Sun 25-Oct-15 14:10:50

God, I'm glad I'm not a man. I imagine I would be baffled and a bit scared if you started a conversation with me along these lines.

ilovesooty Sun 25-Oct-15 14:12:43

Good grief. Text him then.

ArgyMargy Sun 25-Oct-15 14:13:12

YANBU but YAB needy.

DixieNormas Sun 25-Oct-15 14:14:07

I'd just text him

Whoknewitcouldbeso Sun 25-Oct-15 14:15:56

I can understand your concern. You are concerned that now youve had sex he may change his behaviour. It's possible he might turn out to be an arse but hopefully he has just gone home and fallen asleep or something. I wod leave it and see if he gets in contact tomorrow morn.

Helmetbymidnight Sun 25-Oct-15 14:16:53

I would expect a text, yeah.

BigOCupOfTea Sun 25-Oct-15 14:17:08

YANBU but YAB needy.

I wouldn't say I'm needy.

The last person who I was with I really fell for him and we waited to have sex.

Then we did and then he went distant and said that he was reminded by his ex wife too much and now wanted to get back with her.

Obviously I was hurt.

It's more about not repeating the same mistake.

bodenbiscuit Sun 25-Oct-15 14:19:30

Sometimes once you've had sex with a man, they go a bit quieter because they feel they've 'got' you now.

How did you meet? Dating is a bit of a nightmare tbh.

ilovesooty Sun 25-Oct-15 14:21:07

So you didn't discuss your feelings before you slept with him?

Helmetbymidnight Sun 25-Oct-15 14:21:15

Why on earth would you be baffled and scared by a woman expecting some kind of contact the day after they've had sex the first time?

I'm baffled that people think it's such a huge ask.

MudCity Sun 25-Oct-15 14:24:01

I don't think you are being needy...you are bound to be a little on edge given your previous experience.

Give it time. It is still mid-afternoon. He might be dealing with something at work or have popped to the shops or...anything!

I would wait it out and, if you haven't heard from his by 7pm just send him a friendly text to say you hope he had a good day and you enjoyed your date or something casual like that...

Good luck.

EatShitDerek Sun 25-Oct-15 14:25:02

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Sparkletastic Sun 25-Oct-15 14:26:12

Was it good sex or bad sex?

BrendaandEddie Sun 25-Oct-15 14:27:19

the ex wife thing - NOT bothered by her until you had sex? Hmm what an arsehole

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