To be freaking out.....just a tad

[LavenderRain]

DS will be 18 at the end of the year,
He has just informed me that he has organised himself a party for 100 people >
And has asked if I would do the food for the occasion

I'm going to regret this arnt I??

[IonaNE]

Where is the party?

[ImperialBlether]

Ask him where it will be held!

[LavenderRain]

Not at home!! That ain't happening!

He has booked his local sports club

[stayathomegardener]

DD 16 had a party at home for 130 after GCSE results.
I took some serious safety precautions, consulting fire officers, paying someone to patrol deep ponds all night, cctv and security on the gate and an A and E medic on site.
Best. Party. Ever!
Was super stressed though.
I would have regretted not doing it.

[LavenderRain]

Sorry posted too early,
He's booked the sports club which he is a member of, but it won't hold 100 people,

I am getting dizzy thinking about 100 drunk teens all over the place

[stayathomegardener]

Oh well, easy then
Someone on the door, don't post the address online till the night before and make it clear no extras.

[LavenderRain]

Bloody Hell stayathome do you live in a castle????

[stayathomegardener]

At least they can legally drink at 18, it will be the drugs that you need to watch.

[Junosmum]

What a proactive and organised young man you have! We'll done. It will be fine!

[stayathomegardener]

No, worse a farm.
Took us a month to make it "safe". On the plus side it has never been so tidy, just can't find anything now.

[bessiebumptious2]

He has organised a party of his own accord because it's what HE wants to do. He's asked you a favour to do the food. That's not unreasonable, to be honest. Many 18 year olds are utterly bloody hopeless and couldn't tie their own shoelaces, so good on him for going for it (my DSDs still need lifts 2 miles down the road at 5pm at the same age - they could use the exercise).

If you can cook, and organise it, do it. Otherwise just be grateful that you have an 18 year old who isn't completely useless!!!

Which bit will you regret? Helping him with the food or being at the party? Id' suggest not being at the party (at least from around 9.30pm anyway). Allow him this night without his parents watching him

[LagunaBubbles]

Are you famous Stay?

[LavenderRain]

Thanks juno he also organised a surprise party for his dad last year turned out not to be a surprise
He's not a bad boy really, I just know how wrecked he has got at other parties

[stayathomegardener]

My mantra was as long as no one dies.
DH feeling was if you give them complete freedom they will self regulate.
We had over 30 potential gate crashers, sex, drugs - mainly cannabis but Ket seemed popular too and a police driveby.
I would suggest this is not unusual.

[stayathomegardener]

Bubbles I am now famous for a great party venue apparently.
They were lovely almost all saying thanks in the morning after camping over.
I agree Lavender your DS sounds very proactive.

[Youarentkiddingme]

The good thing is as they'll all be pissed they won't remember what you serve want gourmet snacks

Sandwiches, sausage rolls and crisps etc will be fine - in fact any sort of food that will soak up the alcohol!

[stayathomegardener]

DD's top tip would be ensure you have a smoke machine and strobe as this allows everyone to dance with confidence meaning no massive alcohol consumption for false courage, plus the venue looks full early on as they are far too cool to turn up on time.

[LavenderRain]

I will do the food of course or Costco will

He is expecting me and DH to go, DH is also member at the club, I'm quite an introvert so won't enjoy the party but will go as its my boy!!

You have all made me feel better now and I've even started to think about a cake

OK here's my revised AIBU........

AIBU to be proud of DS for organising his own party

[stayathomegardener]

DD said food was not cool so we left 20 loaves of bread in the cupboards under the toaster and butter in the fridge. Nothing left by the morning.

[Fluffycloudland77]

I'd get loads from Iceland and do a few bowls of crisps. If their pissed it wont stay down long anyway.

[susielovessocks]

Stayathome it is possible my son was at your party, he will concur best party ever (if it was yours!)

[LavenderRain]

stay that's hilarious! Maybe I will just buy 300 Greggs sausage rolls,

There will be a bar but drinks are dirt cheap,

[stayathomegardener]

YANBU at all
Maybe fairy cakes would go down well?
Not at first cos thats not cool but brought out later...

[Goldmandra]

No, worse a farm.

My DD1's post GCSE party was on a farm. The parents took a rather different approach. Pick the furthest field so they don't disturb anyone and leave them to it with their tents.

It never crossed my mind that there should even be phone service, never mind medics and security! I am clearly naive!

They did have a knackered old banger they were allowed to drive back to the farmhouse if they needed anything.