Posting here as have never used this site before and badly need advice from adults on this situation, please feel free to move or delete this thread if not in the right place!!
I'm 17 and work in an upmarket kitchen store, we sell electricals, utensils and kids food prep, such as clip top lunchboxes and meal time accessories for young kids.
My dilemma involves a customer who happens to be a friend of mine, she's in the year below me so would be 16 going on 17 and has previously suffered from a severe eating disorder which after a stay in an inpatient facility for 8 months has been deemed physically safe weight wise to leave and become an outpatient. Although she is physically healthier weight wise now I know she isn't mentally, and lately has been expressing a desire to relapse and begin dieting again as she feels she is getting fatter again.
My issue is she has requested I buy her a meal separation tray, which is a tray meant for babies learning to distinguish between different food groups with small not even hand sized compartments where separate foods can go and not be mixed together behind her parents back, which I honestly have no desire to do whatsoever as I feel it will do her no favours whatsoever in terms of recovery and I do not like the idea of going behind her parents back who I know were deeply affected by the discovery of the eating disorder and struggled very much coming to terms with it. The problem is she will not stop bugging me about it even though I have told her countless times no as I don't want to (I tried to be impartial in the way I worded it to her as I don't want her thinking I'm encouraging her by doing it, ie I've said I'm busy and can't or I forget etc, basically making excuses not to do it!) and will regularly come into my store and ask if I have it and interrupt me when serving customers demanding that she urgently needs it.
I honestly don't know what to do. I'm at my wits end as it hurts me as although I am not close as a best friend to her I would consider her a good friend and it's difficult to see her slipping back into difficulty and I'm powerless to help. The reason I'm posting in AIBU is that she regularly interrupts me when I'm training and working and I feel like if she doesn't stop I will to tell her parents for the sake of my job and her own safety and I'm not really sure whether I should as I don't want them thinking I'm interfering or overreacting?? AIBU by betraying her trust or would it be the best thing to ignore the worry of losing the friendship to put her health first?
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hmmmmthinking · 18/10/2015 17:32
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