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AIBU to interfere?

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WhyIRayLiotta Sat 17-Oct-15 18:41:13

I found out a couple of weeks ago that my brother has been mad about an old friend of mine for years.

He is in his 30s and a proper gem. Hard working, caring and great fun. He's not had much luck with girlfriends. He has had 2 long-ish relationships - 2 years or so. But he's never found the one.

I've known G for 20+ years (God I'm old!) but we aren't really close now - no reason, just grown apart - still love to see her at weddings/ Christmas/ get togethers and are FB friends etc.

Anyway - a couple of weeks ago I was home and having a few drinks with my brother and his friend - and it transpires DB has been utterly smitten with G since we were at school.
But she's always had boyfriends/ moved away for a while etc and nothing ever came of it.
It was all said while merry, and the next day he told me not to say anything - that she'd not be interested etc and he'd hate the awkwardness / embarrassment of our friend group finding out.

BUT... Since I found out it seems so obvious that they'd be great together. She has had a crap time - been cheated on / found out she was an OW, generally thinks men are crap. Last time we talked (February) she told me about finding out her bf was married, how gutted she was and how she was starting to think she'll always be single. She is 37 and I know having a family used to be high on her adgenda.

So... AIBU to tell her something when DB has asked me not to?!

Clobbered Sat 17-Oct-15 18:43:45

Why not tell your DB what she has told you and let him make the first move?

Seeyounearertime Sat 17-Oct-15 18:45:10

I'd say yes, VVU if you told her.
Breaking your brothers trust etc and it could be bad, awkward etc.

Oysterbabe Sat 17-Oct-15 18:46:45

You could enquire with her as to whether she'd be interested. Don't make it like he's told you anything just say he's single and you think they'd be a good match.

WhyIRayLiotta Sat 17-Oct-15 18:58:44

Thanks clobbered I've mentioned to DB about the idiots she's dated etc, but I think he feels she's out of his league a bit (in the nicest way possible she's not!)

I would gage her opinion vaguely if I could but she and I so rarely meet that it'd have to be a Facebook message - so in a way that'd immediately weigh the question IYCWIM.

WhyIRayLiotta Sat 17-Oct-15 19:00:35

seeyounearertime that's my fear. But in my head I am seeing wedding and babies and getting ridiculously carried away! blush

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