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If you had good friends visiting you for the weekend

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DisappointedOne Fri 16-Oct-15 16:43:02

and then your parents arranged a family lunch, would you bring the frIends along (they wouldn't know anyone else there) for the meal or would you just decline the invitation and do what you'd already planned? WIBU?

FannyFifer Fri 16-Oct-15 16:44:07

Decline the invite if I had friends visiting of course..

putcustardonit Fri 16-Oct-15 16:45:46

Decline definitely.

BolshierAryaStark Fri 16-Oct-15 16:46:21

I'd decline.

AnnaMarlowe Fri 16-Oct-15 16:46:35

I'd decline. Very uncomfortable for the guests otherwise.

pilates Fri 16-Oct-15 16:46:36

Decline the invitation from your parents. You can go to your parents for a family lunch anytime surely?

VimFuego101 Fri 16-Oct-15 16:48:09

If they hadn't met before I would just decline the family lunch.

cuntycowfacemonkey Fri 16-Oct-15 16:50:08

Decline the lunch

patterkiller Fri 16-Oct-15 16:50:56

Decline the lunch

AlmaMartyr Fri 16-Oct-15 16:52:04

Decline the lunch

girlywhirly Fri 16-Oct-15 16:52:53

The friends visit would be your priority as it was arranged before the parents lunch, you will already have meals planned. Give apologies to your parents, I'm sure they'll understand. Perhaps they will contact you earlier next time to make sure you are available.

Junosmum Fri 16-Oct-15 16:53:57


sky1010 Fri 16-Oct-15 16:54:43

Depends on the friends.

If it was an old friend who I could trust to give an honest 'nah mate I came to see you' or an upbeat 'why not?'- I'd ask them.

Otherwise, I'd decline the lunch.

Bunbaker Fri 16-Oct-15 16:56:08

Just tell them that you already have prior arrangements. Simple really.

Gatehouse77 Fri 16-Oct-15 16:56:30

Decline unless you think they'll all get along?

DisappointedOne Fri 16-Oct-15 16:57:18

Thanks. Slight reverse. We happen to be in DH's hometown this weekend for another reason (it's 260 miles away from where we live). Enquired with PIL whether they were around for a cuppa on Sunday (weeks ago). They've suggested going for a meal and invited the rest of the family. BIL and family have friends staying and instead of declining have said they'll bring their friends too. So quick cuppa before we set off for home has become a last minute hunt for a table for 20. sad

scarlets Fri 16-Oct-15 16:59:12

If the friends are gregarious people, it'll probably be fun.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Fri 16-Oct-15 17:00:13

Well maybe if they haven't seen you for ages they didn't want to decline?

ifonly4 Fri 16-Oct-15 17:02:25

You could say to BIL you want to make their friends welcome, so perhaps he would like to choose and book somewhere they'll like!

DisappointedOne Fri 16-Oct-15 17:05:01

That would involve a drive 50 miles in the wrong direction.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Fri 16-Oct-15 17:05:55

What would?

DisappointedOne Fri 16-Oct-15 17:06:52

Letting BIL choose the location.

Wombatinabathhat Fri 16-Oct-15 17:08:09

Why not just ask the question instead of bothering with the reverse? confused

FunkyPeacock Fri 16-Oct-15 17:08:28

I would decline unless the friends knew my parents (eg. old school friends) in which case I would ask the friends if they didn't mind if we all went for lunch together

DisappointedOne Fri 16-Oct-15 17:09:59

They don't know any of the family.

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