To think this is odd (MIL issue)

(98 Posts)
3rdrockfromthesun Sun 27-Sep-15 22:30:21

Just come back from London and seeing DP's parents who are separated. Was going through the drawers Before leaving to pack stuff we had forgotten/ left behind last time where I found some of DP's underwear. Started to pack them when DP said that his mother has spare paints for him just in case he forgets to bring some with him! AIBU to think this is a bit odd as DP is 25 (not going on 3) that he can just nip to the shop and buy spares/new paints if forgets like the rest of us hmm?

3rdrockfromthesun Sun 27-Sep-15 22:30:59

Plus they are new ones not ones he left behind when he moved out

MrsTerryPratchett Sun 27-Sep-15 22:32:24

Paints or pants?

BackInTheRealWorld Sun 27-Sep-15 22:32:56

Meh, it's not even worth a second thought.

maddening Sun 27-Sep-15 22:33:23

Such things are born from experience - so probably after several visits where your dp had failed to pack underpants his mum got some in to avoid the having to wash them immediately or the rush to the shops to buy some more.

Vixxfacee Sun 27-Sep-15 22:33:53

Yabu who cares.

Prettyeyedpiratesmile Sun 27-Sep-15 22:34:11

Unless her DP is Picasso, then I think we can safely say she means pants....

HirplesWithHaggis Sun 27-Sep-15 22:35:07

If that's the oddest thing she does, you have a keeper. grin

How long since he moved out? How much "stuff" has he left behind?

IAmACuboid Sun 27-Sep-15 22:36:51

Ach, c'mon, he's 25 not 35, it's not that long ago he was living at home and she was buying all his pants for him.
Yes it's a bit of overstepping now he's fully left home, but all it'd take is him saying "No need to do that anymore Mum". If he turns up without his overnight bag it's just easier to have a few things there, why make a special trip to buy stuff unnecessarily?
I left spare clothes at my mum's til I was 30 (jeans/jumpers/boots etc) as I'd sometimes head there for the wkend straight from work. No big deal.

BertrandRussell Sun 27-Sep-15 22:37:13

My mother had a box in her bathroom that she kept stocked with tampons in case any of her adult daughters or daughters in law needed them.

There were many occasions over the years when we were grateful.

Maybe83 Sun 27-Sep-15 22:39:17

My mil is like this although she still has 5 sons living at home. She has extra boxers socks spare t shirts, outfit s for the grandchildren and pjs. Having stayed several times it actually has come in very useful! She also has two of every appliance and kitchen utensil etc. She has a large house!

scatterthenuns Sun 27-Sep-15 22:39:58

Fine at 25. He won't have moved out that long ago.

Greengardenpixie Sun 27-Sep-15 22:40:16

No, not that weird. My ds had to ask to borrow my dh's socks and he was also in this twenties.

FadedRed Sun 27-Sep-15 22:41:20

Have a look in the loft next time, you'll probably find his schoolbooks and train set too.

3rdrockfromthesun Sun 27-Sep-15 22:43:36

Yes pants not paints blush. We live in Yorkshire so it is not a spur of the moment visit that becomes an overnight stay.

Umm he left home fully 18 months ago. I just find it odd about having spare underwear - maybe she is waiting for the day he leaves me and moves back home?!

sodabreadjam Sun 27-Sep-15 22:52:09

My DSs are in their 30s. One lives in the USA and the other has been living with us on and off - he has just moved out to live with his girlfriend.

We have spare clothes for both of them, although I can't say I would be rushing out to buy new clothes to keep here for them.

However, I can assure you that it is my dearest wish for my them to find a long term partner and settle down. I really doubt that you MIL is trying to entice your DP back home with the promise of new pants.

Agrestic Sun 27-Sep-15 22:53:04

My mum's probably got shed loads of my old pants that I abandoned 5/6 years ago.

It's not weird.

HirplesWithHaggis Sun 27-Sep-15 22:56:21

Or maybe he had a habit of turning up from Uni with bags of filthy laundry and no clean underwear, and she got fed up with him hogging the washing machine the minute he walked in? Maybe she likes to do certain types of laundry on certain days/prefers not to use the tumble dryer... who knows? We all have our own little peculiarities, and if this really is the worst, as I said earlier, you have a keeper.

If you're living, and presumably working, in Yorkshire, mummy's home in That London isn't going to be first port of call if you do break up.

OddlyLogical Sun 27-Sep-15 22:57:21

I find it very weird!

cdtaylornats Sun 27-Sep-15 22:58:26

I'm 57 and keep some clothes at my Mums - who wants to cart a suitcase around on a train when you visit

GiddyOnZackHunt Sun 27-Sep-15 23:02:08

I'm 45 and haven't lived with my parents for at least 23 years.
My mum still keeps a toothbrush for me smile

5Foot5 Sun 27-Sep-15 23:06:54

18 months is nothing. Give the poor woman a break. (Oh and since you refer to him as your DP not your DH she is not strictly speaking your MIL)

Marcipex Sun 27-Sep-15 23:12:06

My mum has more than one spare bath robe, it saves people packing a lot of stuff.
Not a big deal surely to have a few spare clothes in the house.

scatterthenuns Sun 27-Sep-15 23:15:37

Actually, come to think of it, all the clothes (knickers included) are exactly where I left them when I moved out over a decade ago.

NotAnotherMonday Sun 27-Sep-15 23:16:54

Not odd at all, my mum has a whole spare set of clothes including knickers and bras for me at hers (and she only lives 10mins away) "just in case" she always has, since I went to university. It's a comfort to know if I lost everything id still have something to wear that was "mine"

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