I honestly don't know if I'm being unreasonable to be slightly annoyed or if it's him.
I'm new in a small infant school. He's the only male on the staff, the caretaker, 55yo and been there since he was 18.
I'm not his boss but I am in a position to have some authority over him.
My predecessor had a history of really not getting on with him and my boss warned me in advance that he needs careful handling (which seems to be common with school caretakers!)
Anyway, so far, we've been getting on OK and he's been doing things for me that he previously refused to do or made a big fuss about
However, whenever I thank him for something, or if we've had a conversation which he thinks might have upset me (he hasn't so far, but it seems my predecessor was easily upset) he comes and squeezes my shoulder or (today) rubs my back.
There's nothing aggressive or sexual about it and he does it to others too, but it does feel a bit patronising and I don't like it!
AIBU? If not, what can I do? if I ask him to stop he is going to take offence, he's not going anywhere and I do need him to do his job for me, at the same time as having no authority to "manage" him.
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Man at work keeps touching me
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SourceofInformation · 25/09/2015 17:31
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