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to be terminating this pregnancy

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ahtilnextweek Thu 17-Sep-15 11:19:56

I have found out i am approx 3-4 weeks preg and on phoning today have got an appointment on Tuesday to terminate the pregnancy (was incredibly impressed at how quickly they could give me an appointment)

I'm feeling very matter of fact about the whole thing, i have one dd, am a single working parent starting to advance in my career, yet following a condom break and the morning after pill have found myself in these circumstances.

I'm very much just treating it like a task that needs to be done. Am I being selfish? financially I could not support another child and would feel resentful towards a second child at this stage in my life.

ahtilnextweek Thu 17-Sep-15 11:23:51


BigStripeyBastard Thu 17-Sep-15 11:24:16


50shadesofmeh Thu 17-Sep-15 11:24:23

entirely your decision, you do whats right for you and your circumstances .

SlowlyGoingINSAINIA Thu 17-Sep-15 11:24:24

Do whatever you feel is right for you. flowers

Nabootique Thu 17-Sep-15 11:25:15

No one will come on here and say that YABU. This is your own personal decision, albeit a hard one. People have terminations for all sorts of reasons. There is no right reason or wrong reason.

ahtilnextweek Thu 17-Sep-15 11:26:33

thanks all, this feels right, I wouldn't provide a life for another child. I would rather further myself in my career to provide for the child that I do have.

MummyPig24 Thu 17-Sep-15 11:27:40

It is completely your decision. You need to do what is right for you and your family. I have recently been through this so feel free to PM me if you need advice or even just to talk.

YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake Thu 17-Sep-15 11:28:34

It sounds like you have made a good decision, that is right for you and your

ahtilnextweek Thu 17-Sep-15 11:31:48

Thank you and mummypig i may well pm you next week as am unsure what goes on for this.

I am now leaving today for a 2 day business conference at which I will be presenting. It's an odd set of circumstances. I had taken tests last week that all came back negative but I just knew.

Gileswithachainsaw Thu 17-Sep-15 11:35:16

do what you feel is best for you and your child. you do not need to justify your decision in any way. I hope everything goes smoothly for you flowers

swimmerforlife Thu 17-Sep-15 11:38:53

YANBU OP, you need to make the decision that is best for you and your DD.

Take care flowers

Dawndonnaagain Thu 17-Sep-15 11:39:29

You are doing what is right for you, that's what is important here.

WhatsTheT Thu 17-Sep-15 11:42:41

YANBU. Only you can decide what is right for your life.

You've stood by your decision and it feels right for you. Nobody else should tell you how you should feel about the situation.


cailindana Thu 17-Sep-15 11:42:41

I'm not even sure why you're asking. Something went wrong and you're fixing it - it's great that you have the opportunity to do that. I hope it all goes smoothly for you.

jorahmormont Thu 17-Sep-15 11:44:27

YANBU to do what is right for you and your DD. Please do not feel that you have to justify yourself in any way (although AIBU threads on abortion rarely turn out well, it may be an idea to ask for the thread to be moved before some of the anti-choicers come on and start giving you a hard time).


Waitingimpatient Thu 17-Sep-15 11:46:21


From your OP and later posts it seems obvious you know that as well so not really sure why this needs to be in AIBU? The thread title could be a bit triggering too. It's the sort of thread where pretty much nobody would say YABU as its your choice to make.

I wish you all the best but really don't think this is the right place. Unless you were hoping to start a debate of some sort

5madthings Thu 17-Sep-15 11:47:07

Yanbu at all.

You are perfectly entitled to make this choice for you, it's your body, your choice.

I hope everything goes smoothly for you xxx

bettyberry Thu 17-Sep-15 11:47:29

I was you when I just started uni. Condom broke, pos test in first term. I knew knew it was the right thing to do and it was. Trust your instincts.

Its absolutely OK to not feel any sadness after at all just as it is absolutely OK to grieve a little.

BiscuitMillionaire Thu 17-Sep-15 11:47:38

This is not an appropriate topic for AIBU. What are you hoping for in response? Please get it moved. For one thing, it will be painful to see the thread title for people struggling with infertility.

TheWanderingUterus Thu 17-Sep-15 11:49:06

YANBU. It sounds like the right decision for you. I have been in a similar position and I made the same choice.
I don't have any time for people who judge on these things.
Your body. Your life. Your choice.

WitchOfAlba Thu 17-Sep-15 11:51:50

AIBU is a strange place to post it. Presumably you don't want to be told that YABU by the pro-life supporters.

Cherryblossomsinspring Thu 17-Sep-15 11:53:39

Sounds like the right choice. Are you looking for people to criticise you or to tell you that you are fantastic for being so strong? AIBU is maybe not the forum for this.

But in any case YANBU. Like the 1000's of other women who make this decision, not happily but without regret or procrastination, and don't look back.

PuntasticUsername Thu 17-Sep-15 11:58:42

YANBU flowers

LobsterQuadrille Thu 17-Sep-15 11:59:55

YANBU at all. I was in the same position about 12 years ago - one DD, sole parent - it simply wasn't practical to do anything else. I have never regretted it for a minute. I did have a Mirena coil put in afterwards (although for STI etc use a condom too of course).

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