To buy cutlery?

[LittleMissIntrovert]

I bought some yesterday, less than £2, just a cheap set as they didn't just have spoons.

We seem to go through a lot of spoons, and they seem to disappear.

We don't have a dishwasher, and I do the washing up once a day usually.

I was doing the washing up and the cutlery was in the box in the kitchen.

My husband asked me what I had bought cutlery for (fair question, but it was the tone of voice) so I said so we had more spoons, he then asked which bits we actually need, I said spoons again as we always seem to run out, and could he please open the box for me so I could wash them. He did this huffily.

I could have pulled him up on his voice, but would have got one of these responses -

I was only asking, and would have denied tone of voice.

Or he would have said I could just do the washing up more regularly. (And not in a nice way)

It's cutlery FFS!

[Grumpyoldblonde]

Sounds like the purchase of cutlery is the least of your problems. Does he often use 'the tone' and question you like this? Huff & puff over trivial things?

[pigsDOfly]

Sorry OP but I don't really understand what your post is about.

Is your AIBU about buying cutlery, washing up once a day, or being annoyed by your DH's questions?

If you needed spoons why didn't you just buy spoons?

[Grumpyoldblonde]

Op wanted spoons but had to buy a cheap pack of cutlery to be able to get spoons, couldn't buy them separately. Husband moody over purchase of cutlery, or having to open the box - or something.

[LittleMissIntrovert]

grumpy yes I get the passive aggressive treatment all the time.

But it is denied if i bring it up, he doesn't realize he is doing it, or I get a reason for it (ie I shouldn't have to buy cutlery if I wash up more)

I know I should be able to buy spoons, I'm a grown woman, just doesn't feel like it sometimes! Just wanted to rant

[pigsDOfly]

Well if he doesn't like the fact that the washing up is only done once a day you should tell him he can do it himself as often as he likes.

[Grumpyoldblonde]

Ah yes, I used to get this kind of thing. I managed to nip it in the bud, I use a long, hard stare, as if I can't quite believe the question.

[NotMeNotYouNotAnyone]

You can buy packs of just spoons at poundland

[AlpacaLypse]

Well if he doesn't like the fact that the washing up is only done once a day you should tell him he can do it himself as often as he likes.

^^

This.

Although he may of course attempt to play the 'doing it so slowly and so craply that you give in and do it yourself' card.

[Millymollymama]

Buy plastic spoons - hundreds of them. Give them to him for Christmas then he will never be without a spoon! Have you married a child? I expect his Mum washed up every minute of the day to ensure a constant supply of sparkling spoons for the whole family!