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Aging inequality after 35

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houseoftea Tue 08-Sep-15 19:54:33

This is a bit superficial but it does annoy me a bit that up until your in your mid 30's most of your peers seems to all look more or less young, the same age however once you get to 35ish suddenly it seems that two people the same age could look like different generations. My sister in law is in fact 4 years older than me but looks like she is dewy 20 something, with not a line or mark on her face while a workmate my age looks a lot older like in her late 40's.

I recently joined POF and of course I can't be sure if everyone is honest about their age but the variation in physical aging amongst a single age group is incredible.

Looking in the mirror I feel a little aggrieved I took good care of myself but I have lots of fine lines on my face and I look older for sure.

Why the inequality and aibu to let it annoy me?

19lottie82 Tue 08-Sep-15 20:43:51


ComposHatComesBack Tue 08-Sep-15 20:48:52

I understand precisely none of that.

godsavethequeeeen Tue 08-Sep-15 20:48:57

Form looking at my peer group it's generally when all the smoking, excessive drinking and drugs, junk good, lack of skin care, teeth brushing and exercise routine start to show.

Twenty somethings can get away with it but eventually catches up with you.

MrsBertMacklin Tue 08-Sep-15 20:52:50

Collagen production starts to slow down when you hit mid-30s. And (apparently) you start to shrink, something to do with cartilage deterioriating in your joints?

In short, everything starts to collapse.

timeforabrewnow Tue 08-Sep-15 20:56:33

And head southwards

Flashbangandgone Tue 08-Sep-15 20:57:39

Early 40s and beginning to notice that...

Also can be esp acute in men due to hair.... Full head with no grey versus balding and grey makes a massive difference.

mumsnit Tue 08-Sep-15 21:03:03

It's only now I'm 40 that I'm grateful for my oily skin! The girls I know from school with the beautiful complexion and zero spots have more lines than me. They still manage to look good though. A lot is about confidence and finding 'your style' I think.

80sMum Tue 08-Sep-15 21:03:49

The factors that affect the degree to which a person begins to look 'old' are numerous:
Genetic inheritance
Lifetime exposure to UVA light
Alcohol consumption
Sleep patterns
Life experiences
Etc etc etc

blueshoes Tue 08-Sep-15 22:10:33

I have always looked ridiculously young. Now in my late 40s now, I look late thirties when I am with my children but even younger without. Swings and roundabouts.

blueshoes Tue 08-Sep-15 22:12:59

There is definitely a genetic component to aging. My peers in Singapore are also in their late 40s and look amazing. Some of the guys don't look much older than I remembered them from uni days.

dontcallmehonreturns Tue 08-Sep-15 22:15:10

I know what you mean. I look at people from school and some of them look ten years older than me. It's not necessarily lifestyle, bar extremes of course. A lot of it is down to genetics and grooming. I don't think skincare makes a mahoosive difference either. I look ok at 35 and feel v attractive, some of that is genetics and some is down to the hairdressers, tear trough fillers and v subtle botox (not done in a beauty salon, but by a surgeon!!) Some people just look good naturally though.

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