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Am I being oversensitive about this?

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EEVEElution Fri 04-Sep-15 19:00:36

Sorry, this is a facebook related one - part of me thinks this is tiny and I should let it go but part of me is quite upset.

They've recently changed the way stuff comes up on your wall, I think, as I'm lately seeing things that people 'like' rather than stuff they just post. My sister has liked a nasty fat shaming video and it's hurt my feelings quite a bit as I am fat myself and have quite a lot of issues surrounding food and my weight. I am currently working in overeaters anonymous so I am (hopefully) recovering; she doesn't know I'm in OA but does know about my problems with food and the pain it causes me, although we don't talk about it much.

If it's relevant she's my half sister and is almost ten years younger than me, she's recently turned 20. Not a child but perhaps not a fully mature adult either.

Slammerkins Fri 04-Sep-15 19:05:52

People like all kinds of shite on FB. Don't take it personally.

TenForward82 Fri 04-Sep-15 19:11:49

Everyone has different opinions. You'll encounter that a lot on FB. You can't change people's mind, just ignore it.

SlowlyGoingINSAINIA Fri 04-Sep-15 19:13:31

I would just ignore.

JontyDoggle37 Fri 04-Sep-15 19:17:50

You're her sister. She probably thinks of you as 'you' not as 'fat' and therefor would never think to associate the video with you in the first place. As long as her behaviour to you is still supportive then put it down to a slightly immature 20 year old not thinking about her actions

NotAWhaleOmeletteInSight Fri 04-Sep-15 19:22:05

I think you're overreacting. People like all kinds of stuff on Facebook. It's not necessarily a true reflection of their actual views.

IloveGTA5 Fri 04-Sep-15 19:22:17

Wot slammerkins and jonty said.

RealityCheque Fri 04-Sep-15 19:23:15

It's Facebook FFS. The first (and last) bastion of the idiot.

Grow a thicker skin or (ideally) stop looking at the banal shite that people post.

Osolea Fri 04-Sep-15 19:24:28

You are being over sensitive probably because, as you say, your issues with food cause you pain already. I agree with Jonty that your sister probably didn't associate the video with you, she probably gave it less than a couple of seconds thought.

AuntyMag10 Fri 04-Sep-15 19:53:49

You're assuming she has you as the only thing on her mind. Do you really think that it's an intentional dig at you? You're being too oversensitive.

bringthenoise Fri 04-Sep-15 19:55:14

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

EEVEElution Fri 04-Sep-15 20:11:26

Thanks all - I will take your advice and try not to take it personally.

notquitehuman Fri 04-Sep-15 20:18:33

I can see why it upsets you. My SIL is very very obsessed with exercise and constantly posts memes about fat people, or #noexcuses messages about how even mums of five can get athletic bodies if they just try hard enough. It upsets me, but I know that she doesn't have me in mind when she posts this stuff. It's just her particular interest.

Welshmaenad Fri 04-Sep-15 20:18:36

If it's the one by that awful Nicole Arbour, I wouldn't take it to heart, she's a nasty piece of work.

EEVEElution Fri 04-Sep-15 20:26:35

Yes it's that one Welsh!

Welshmaenad Fri 04-Sep-15 20:38:59

Well fuck her and her thigh gap.

Slammerkins Fri 04-Sep-15 20:40:39


AuntyMag10 Fri 04-Sep-15 20:53:04

Actually having just seen that video I think it's horrible.

Slammerkins Fri 04-Sep-15 20:55:22

I think she speaks to people who have their own issues around food and weight, which manifests itself as a sort of terror at anyone who doesn't buy into that narrow definition of 'healthy'.

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