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or does every mother feel like this?

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JustHavinABreak Tue 25-Aug-15 17:34:28

First let me say how much I adore my kids. That's why I ask this, in case I am not doing right by them. But does anyone else have days where they feel completely overwhelmed by motherhood, like they are completely crap at it??

Lovelybuzzybees Tue 25-Aug-15 17:36:09

Hey having we are all winging it everyday , don't beat yourself up

godsavethequeeeen Tue 25-Aug-15 17:36:36

most days. We have moments of it being ok, but they're outnumbered by the hard shit.

LionsDontWeaveLentils Tue 25-Aug-15 17:38:21

I think everyone feels like this....or at least I certainly do.

RandomMess Tue 25-Aug-15 17:39:46

Oh yes, my best is "never good enough" in my own eyes.

Birnamwood Tue 25-Aug-15 17:40:17

yup. Today. We haven't left the house, feel like the worst mother in the world but I'm just so knackered after 4 hrs sleep sat am - sun pm and ds2's birthday party yesterday. They've spent the day in PJ's playing with the new toys and the house is a bomb site <sigh>

Mine are 7 & 3 btw so not young!

It'll pass, I'm happy that, if at the end of the day, no one is in hospital, they've been fed and are happy then I have done a good job smile

BlanketsAndBiscuits Tue 25-Aug-15 17:42:44

Oh god, constantly!

If they're still alive at the end of the day, its a job well done.

Anything extra is just a bonus wishes of a immaculate home

ExplodingCarrots Tue 25-Aug-15 17:43:29

You are not alone OP . Some days I can be close to tears.

Wobblystraddle Tue 25-Aug-15 17:44:48

That feels very much like my life at the moment.

comfybigduvet Tue 25-Aug-15 17:45:35

To be honest, I don't now. I'm not a brilliant mother but I'm their mother so I'm better than anyone else because they are my children.

I'd be a terrible mum to anyone else's kids though!

StarlingMurmuration Tue 25-Aug-15 17:46:12

Every day! It gets to this time of day and I'm literally counting down til the cavalry (DP!) arrives home from work. Only 20 minutes to go!

GrouchyKiwi Tue 25-Aug-15 17:50:21

Definitely. Some days DH gets home from work and I tell him he's in charge of the children till they go to bed because I need to pretend I don't have any, then I go and hide in the lounge watching crap tv.

Some days are relentless and you're basically just doing what you can to survive.

purplepandas Tue 25-Aug-15 17:50:26

Absolutely. I started my own thread last week about this kind of thing. Last week there were tears from me. Tis hard.

MimiLaBonq1 Tue 25-Aug-15 17:51:23

Yes. I think everyone feels overwhelmed at times. Some more or less than others.

I agree with comfyduvet I would be a shit mum to anyone else's kids. And am at peace with being a less than perfect mum to my own. But they are fed, happy and feel loved. That's the best we can do.

MyIronLung Tue 25-Aug-15 17:52:49

Yes! we've had a shit day. We were supposed to go out and meet with friends but it all got cancelled last minute and started to rain. Instead we've been in the house all day, ds (4) is bored out of his brain even though he has a million toys, I'm tired and fed up and counting down the hours till we can go to bed and forget this disaster of a day.
What makes it worse is as a lp I don't even have anyone coming home to help me. This is it. Every day. Ad infinitum.

Tiggeryoubastard Tue 25-Aug-15 17:53:58

I am certain just about everyone gas days like that. Mine are older now, but I remember exactly what you mean, justhaving. Just go with the flow on days like that.

stuckinahole Tue 25-Aug-15 17:56:43

Yes. Everyday.

abbieanders Tue 25-Aug-15 17:59:12

Constantly. Logically, I know I'm a good mam and the baba is happy, healthy, safe, loved and coming along well. However, I'm not perfect and beat myself up about my failures every day.

Sandbrook Tue 25-Aug-15 17:59:46

3-4 times a fucking week

LongHairDontCare Tue 25-Aug-15 17:59:56

Every day. We are bored, every day is the same and I shout to much sad

Pyjamaramadrama Tue 25-Aug-15 18:01:04

Yes, especially atm as I have a new baby and ds1 has spent most of the holidays bored out of his brains.

I'm also convinced that everyone else has spotless houses, goes on long walks in the rain and bakes and cooks fresh meals everyday.

Trooperslane Tue 25-Aug-15 18:02:32

Can't link on my phone, but if you're on Facebook follow the hurrah for gin page and check out the Tim Minchin

MoodyMarge Tue 25-Aug-15 18:05:08

All the time!! I always compare myself to other parents. Sometimes I'm sensible enough to realise that nobody is perfect and these 'earth mother' types probably have their moments behind closed doors too. Often, however I just beat myself up about the things I haven't/can't/won't do for the kids. Facebook is a big part of the guilt I feel, other families just seem to have so much more fun whilst I normally feel tired, fed up and cross! (I am aware that people do pick the best stuff to post on FB and it's not a realistic reflection of their everyday lives).

Rarity08 Tue 25-Aug-15 18:06:54

Oh god yes. We're having a PJ day today. I start my nightshifts tonight and have barely got the energy to move off the sofa, luckily dc's quite happy playing and taking turns on the iPad. You are not alone brew

ExBallerina Tue 25-Aug-15 18:07:56

I did often, but due to a recent health scare I've had, I've decided to stop worrying about getting it right. I've started to apply that old adage of "do you want to be right or do you want to be happy" to some of my daily parenting struggles. Dd's only 3 though so I guess it won't always apply...

But, we do what works. And you don't know what works until you learn what doesn't. That's my story and I'm sticking to it wine

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