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To not mind public displays of affection but

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Donotknowhownottomind Thu 20-Aug-15 23:07:35

not when they end with hand squarely on bum (close to me on a crowded bus)


Am I a prude and what are the most "inappropriate" pdas you have witnessed?

lessonsintightropes Thu 20-Aug-15 23:29:16


MsTargaryen Thu 20-Aug-15 23:32:08

I won't biscuit you because I always feel a bit awkward with pda when it's in close quarters like that. Like the time I was in the queue to pay for shopping and the guy in front kept rubbing his lady friends bum crack. Not really nice.

Donotknowhownottomind Thu 20-Aug-15 23:33:59

hmm why a biscuit?

Was on a bus this evening - felt uncomfortable because of said hand on bum (for quite a while), wondered if I am past it or if others feel uncomfortable too?

By asking for others' stories I was asking for things along the lines of loud kissing not x rated movies hmm.

Donotknowhownottomind Thu 20-Aug-15 23:35:23

Though I apologise if I came across wrong.

Rockaria Thu 20-Aug-15 23:38:58

I've just posted a thread about PDAs on trains! You are NBU!

PolkadotsAndMoonbeams Thu 20-Aug-15 23:51:58

I knew a couple at university who'd walk around with their hands in each others' back pockets. Very very odd.

MidniteScribbler Thu 20-Aug-15 23:58:50

A few years ago I was on a flight and the couple in the row opposite me (I had a row to myself, they had the opposite row to themselves) decided to watch porn on their laptop and got over excited and obviously thought that the mile high club could be joined whilst in your seat. She ended up with he r head in his lap with his trousers unzipped. I complained to the hostess (yes, I'm an old fuddy duddy), and they were warned to stop. They continued on and were met by the federal police upon their arrival in Australia. Seriously people, there's a time and place for everything.

cocobean2805 Fri 21-Aug-15 00:05:34

My DH will occasionally push his luck and attempt a PDA (hand on bum, lingering kiss) he knows I'm not one for it and he usually preempts the expected arm punch by getting out of reaching distance sharpish. I don't think I'm a prude, but I don't like watching it, so I don't see why others should have to see ua so it! I use the meter stick of if I wouldn't do it in front of my Grandma, I won't do it in public!

iAmNicolaMurray Fri 21-Aug-15 00:10:53

Not 100% sure if this classifies as a PDA BUT I used to be friends with a couple and a group of us would go to the pub together. We'd all be sitting around the table chatting and the boyfriend would stick his finger in the girlfriend's mouth and just leave it there. Nobody round the table would mention it.

AcrossthePond55 Fri 21-Aug-15 01:31:36

Hand on bum? That's all? Someone just resting their hand on their partner's bum doesn't bother me a bit. Now if they're kneading or rubbing it, that's a bit hmm.

MostIneptThatEverStepped Fri 21-Aug-15 01:35:00

I was once jammed in tight on the barrier at a gig next to this girl. Her boyfriend was on her other side, had his arm round her and kept running his hand up and down her side which funnily enough meant he was also running his hand up and down my side. Pretty annoying to say the least.

ShakesBootyFlabWobbles Fri 21-Aug-15 01:36:27

iamnic shock shock shock

So weird. The act, as well as the silence.

iAmNicolaMurray Fri 21-Aug-15 08:59:52

I think none of us knew what to say! He didnt remove his finger straight away when the girlfriend wanted to speak so spluttered like a child with a dummy until he did. Things would have been a lot less weird if it was a dummy in her mouth.

DawnOfTheDoggers Fri 21-Aug-15 09:10:49

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

gamerwidow Fri 21-Aug-15 09:14:25

I hate PDAs in close quarters like the couple getting off with each other in the seat opposite me on the train once or the people snogging on the step below me on the escalator. So close I thought I'd involuntary joined a ménage a trois.

SwearyGodmother Fri 21-Aug-15 09:17:14

I saw a couple lying on a sofa in a pub (after work so not super late) full on snogging. I spoke to the staff to ask them to stop once he slid his hand into the front of her jeans. Bleurgh.

ToTheGups Fri 21-Aug-15 09:21:18

Hand on bun wouldn't bother me but finger in mouth? What the actual f?

WendyTorrance Fri 21-Aug-15 09:21:45

'Mild' PDA's don't bother me. However, whilst buying ice cream for the kids in a shop recently, one of the waitresses was having a tea break with her boyfriend (both around 17). As I glanced over to where they were sitting (in the window), she was standing and he was sitting with his hand between her legs rubbing her fanny. They stopped when they realised that I had seen them but ffs, this is a shop full of kids! They got a very hard stare from me, I can tell you.

Nabootique Fri 21-Aug-15 09:31:44

A hand on the bum wouldn't bother me too much but I was bothered a while ago on a bus when there was a teen couple snogging incessantly and VERY LOUDLY for the entire journey. It wasn't even the fact that they were kissing, as easy to avoid looking (they were sat behind me) but the noise was ridiculous. Not moaning or anything, just very loud slurpy, wet smacking lip noises.

TantrumsAndBalloons Fri 21-Aug-15 10:49:37

I was walking BigDog in the park on Saturday afternoon and there was a couple having sex on the bench.

Now that was inappropriate

DontHaveAUsername Fri 21-Aug-15 11:06:48

It wouldn't bother me but if it was stuff like what Wendy or Tantrums said yes it would.

JeanneDeMontbaston Fri 21-Aug-15 11:13:16

I tend to think people hugging/kissing in public is quite sweet, TBH. I mean, no one wants to see teenagers massaging each others' larynxes, but can't we all remember being teenagers?

Groping arses does strike me as a bit bleugh, though, and anything where you're in a crowded space is a bit off.

OTheHugeManatee Fri 21-Aug-15 11:54:20

Count yourself lucky. My office faces a hotel, which has floor-to-ceiling glass windows and - inexplicably - no net curtains. The guests there seem strangely oblivious to the fact that some 300 office workers can see everything they do.

Usually it's just half-dressed people, but this morning a couple of the guests there were SHAGGING with the curtains open shock

Strictly speaking that's not a public display of affection, but in practice it was pretty damn public hmm

bilbodog Fri 21-Aug-15 12:47:55

What - Manatee - I would be ringing up the hotel if I had to look at that!

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