Dd is 5 ; she doesn't have a single best friend from school but tends to play with a larger range of her class mates (small class).
I myself have made good friends with some of the parents - my dd plays with their DC but again , not exclusively .
About a month ago , Dd was invited over to one of the girls' houses to play (let's call her A) , along with a couple other girls from the class . Child B was the one who couldn't make it.
I reciprocated by taking child A and B on an outing with my dd . I don't really know the 3rd girls mum and this mum doesn't invite my dd over to her house when she hosts . Not an issue .
A couple of weeks ago I invited child B over to play at our house . I didn't invite child A , for no particular reason . It was just a short notice thing as child B lives close by.
A few days ago I took child A and my dd on an outing .
I didn't invite child B for various reasons - I was going further afield and I thought 3 might be too much , I had already had her round on her own , and mainly because I feel like I may have hassled her mum a bit much in trying to be friends
I've offered coffee , meal out somewhere to child Bs mum before but she always has a reason not to go or is very vague about committing to something . I don't think I've been pushy , I just think she very much keeps herself to herself . I tried to be friendly as I'm new to the area and don't know anyone .
Child Bs mum has said after the last "play date" she would reciprocate in the following week but I've heard nothing at all from her ; I felt if I asked her dd it would be more pressure for her to reciprocate when I think she doesn't want to .
Well when I picked up child A , her mum asked if child B was going and child A also asked if child B was invited (I think this was just because I took all of them on the last outing ).
I know child A has play dates with other DC without my dd and it doesn't bother me at all .
My dd also has single play dates with children other than A and B.
So why do I feel so bad now about not inviting child B . Was I mean ?
My intentions were not malicious . I suffer with social anxiety and this has been niggling me for days now
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Did I commit a "play date " faux pas?
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CocoCabana00 · 18/08/2015 17:44
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