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To think my nephew is underdeveloped?

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WantToGetLost Sat 15-Aug-15 16:26:46

Not sure if underdeveloped is the right word but he is just 8months and he cannot cruel or even sit up on his own. He just learned to roll over but gets stuck sometimes.
He uses his bouncer just fine as well.
I don't mean to sound judgmental im just curious and wondering if there is anything his mum can do?

Findtheoldme Sat 15-Aug-15 16:28:02


He sounds perfectly fine. There are average ages for doing things for a reason.

TidyDancer Sat 15-Aug-15 16:28:28

Have they asked for your advice?

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sat 15-Aug-15 16:30:36

Not all babies crawl at 8 months.

Are his parents concerned?

Totality22 Sat 15-Aug-15 16:32:42

God my daughter is 7 months and can't sit up yet (she can roll but isn't close to crawling or anything else). MY DS didn't sit up until 10 months granted he was crawling though

You sound nosy, over involved and yes very judgmental OP. Sorry but I would butt out if I were you.

callamia Sat 15-Aug-15 16:33:04

I wouldn't expect most babies to be crawling at 8m, some of my friends' children weren't sitting independently at this age either, and there's nothing at all wrong with them. Will he have a 7-11m check? Not all authorities do it, but it would flag any cause for concern. If his other development seems ok (babbling, social engagement etc), then I wouldn't worry for now.

Pinkball75 Sat 15-Aug-15 16:34:10

They don't all do everything bang on cue at the age they're meant to. A child who can't move around yet might be very advanced in other ways, such as dexterity. My DD didn't bum-shuffle until just after her first birthday or walk until her second, but she could count and recognise numbers up to 20 and recite the alphabet by 18months. Focus on his strong points and he'll do everything else when he's good and ready wink

DirtyMugPolice Sat 15-Aug-15 16:34:20

Yabu - all within the realms of normal. I slept through the night at 6 weeks and my son slept through at 16 months. Both developmental milestones but vastly different and have no relevance to the other!

mrspremise Sat 15-Aug-15 16:35:37

He cannot cruel? You seem to have him covered on that score, OP... Fwiw, one of my sons stood up at seven months, the other didn't sit until after that age. HTH

MrsAukerman Sat 15-Aug-15 16:36:40

I have an 8.5m old. Obviously he has lots of friends of similar ages. The variety is astounding. Some are nearly walking, some roll one way but not the other, some are crawling, others happy to sit and watch. If anything the bigger ones seem less mobile.

seaoflove Sat 15-Aug-15 16:37:50

My DD was only just sitting at that age. Didn't crawl until she was 10.5m.

So no, he's not unusual at all.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Sat 15-Aug-15 16:38:07

Do you want any tips his dad can do or just breast related ones? Seeing as that's the only difference between mum and dads.

He sounds fine.

Bellebella Sat 15-Aug-15 16:38:58

All babies are different, have his parents asked your opinion? Because as a parent of a child who is a very slow talker I would be pretty miffed if my sister or my sil told me my child seemed underdeveloped and perhaps there was more I could do.

If the parents are unconcerned then your nephew is fine.

Zeitgeistic Sat 15-Aug-15 16:39:16

My perfectly normal DD lay on her back for 9 months. She didn't roll over, sit up or attempt to crawl. GP told me she was still within the normal range. She was right. DD is nearly 4 now and developmentally normal in every respect.

You sound judgy and ignorant. Have his parents asked for your advice? If not, keep out of it.

Lurkedforever1 Sat 15-Aug-15 16:40:06

Yabu. Babies and children don't follow a defined development timetable where they achieve dead on a certain age. If dns parents are concerned they should speak to a professional, although no reason they should be.

Zeitgeistic Sat 15-Aug-15 16:40:20

Rather a lot of the word 'normal' there - sorry!

FenellaFellorick Sat 15-Aug-15 16:41:06

have a look at that

Are his parents concerned?

If so, they can always have a chat with the health visitor.

I wouldn't be concerned about an 8 month old not yet sitting or crawling. If it's the average then that obviously means there are some doing it and some not.

Sirzy Sat 15-Aug-15 16:41:16

What a horrible way of voicing concerns underdeveloped is.

PresidentTwonk Sat 15-Aug-15 16:42:05

YABU - you can't spell 'crawl' so we obviously all develop skills at different ages...

RabbitSaysWoof Sat 15-Aug-15 16:45:33

Why do people run off wearing the aunty badge badge like it's an actual responsibility that their sibling had a baby.
If you don't know enough to know that all babies are different then you are not really the person to voice concern for someone else's child.

Bunbaker Sat 15-Aug-15 16:47:26

Just to reiterate what everyone else has said, it isn't anything to be concerned about and it isn't any of your business. Do you have children or know anything about them?

DD sat up unaided at 10 months, crawled at 12 months and walked at 16 months. We were all late walkers in my family so I wasn't in the least bit concerned.

Micah Sat 15-Aug-15 16:50:29

Mine couldn't sit up or crawl at 8 months.

She got up and walked before 10 months.

Friends child could sit at 6 months, didn't walk until 23 months.

They're all different.

BackInTheRealWorld Sat 15-Aug-15 16:50:31

God this reminds me of a cliquey baby group I joined. My son didn't crawl properly, would just drag himself on his elbows commando style and he didn't walk til he was 16 months. When he started walking one of the cliquey bitches came over and said 'so glad he is walking, we were getting very concerned about his lower body strength'
Oh fuck off and get back to your parquet flooring chats you massive bitches! angry

Blimey, that was 17 years ago, you'd think I'd be over it by now! shock grin

WantToGetLost Sat 15-Aug-15 16:52:35

His parents are concerned, they asked me but I had a baby ten years ago I cannot remember I think my dc started at 7-8 months

FenellaFellorick Sat 15-Aug-15 16:53:32

If they are concerned, they would be better off asking their health visitor.

That is what you should advise them.

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