Not literally! Just metaphorically.
When we were with xp, money was alway tight. However, he could always afford a couple of hundred here for a new (not needed) bike, or another hundred for a new coat (the last 4 weren't warm enough...) but anything ds or I actually needed... No chance. Can't afford that!
Fast forward a few years. Xp is with a new victim partner, we are living off benefits, as I am still on unpaid maternity leave with toddler dd. we are financially "coping". We have a few days where dinner is beans on toast. But by being a bit careful, we have had a holiday and some good days out.
Xp has now drained both his mum's and his new GF's bank accounts, by being too lazy to get a job (or too stroppy to keep one...). Everything they do has to be carefully budgeted, aparently. They can't buy any food unless it comes from aldi. They don't have a car. She doesn't drive, and all the other road users are probably safer when xp is on his bike.
Xp has decided he wants to meet up and have a day out with ds. No problem (apart from ds not being keen). He has offered us petrol money and agreed to a more kid-friendly suggestion than the one he came up with.
Anyway, background done, we are meeting next week. WIBU to put dcs in their nice designer clothes? And let them have their expensive toys in the car?
Ds has a great pair of £157 jeans. They are smart and look really good on him (ok, they were £10, pre-loved in the charity shop!) along with a couple of branded t-shirts and hoodies. All just a few quid each.
Dd has a whole collection of pretty tops/dresses. Some gap/next/monsoon... All were too expensive when he was living with us. But they are all nearly new. From the same charity shop. Again, anything from 99p to about £3.
WIBU to make them look nice and smart, in nice clothes for their day out? Ds is desperate to use his Visa card in front of his dad. To buy himself a gift in the gift shop. Because he can...
Not so much along the lines of "look how we waste our money", but more along the lines of "yes, I am looking after dcs perfectly well while you have been bumming around for 3 years."
And no, they won't be wearing pretty white dresses, playing in the mud!
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