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WIBU to send this child to the movies alone?

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annandale Thu 13-Aug-15 22:42:53

PILS have spoken to dh to say they think we were wrong to do this. They are more anxious than us but don't often interfere in this way, so I'd quite like to know what the balance of opinion is, because it is a situation that will happen again.

BTW I know that the overall opinion is likely to be 'it depends on the child'...

OK so imagine you have a holiday crunch point where both parents need to be elsewhere; you decide that at this age it is going to be OK for your child to be given a key and a tenner, and to walk 15 minutes on a very familiar route to go and see Inside Out on their own, to come back and be in the house for a further hour or so alone.

What age would you have arranged for your child to do this?

AgentProvocateur Thu 13-Aug-15 22:44:07

11 or 12.

AgentProvocateur Thu 13-Aug-15 22:45:10

Actually, with no major roads to cross - younger. 10 n

LadyStark Thu 13-Aug-15 22:45:12


NynaevesSister Thu 13-Aug-15 22:45:27

Secondary school age.

DiscoDiva70 Thu 13-Aug-15 22:45:29


WeepingBicycleMonkeys Thu 13-Aug-15 22:46:13

Completely alone or with friend(s)?
Alone I'd say 14

NeuNewNouveau Thu 13-Aug-15 22:47:21

Secondary achool age too. At least 11.5yrs, so going into yr7.
The fact they went to see INSIDE out leads me to believe they were younger than that which I wouldn't be comfortable with.

NeuNewNouveau Thu 13-Aug-15 22:47:51

Not sure how that became INSIDE out but you know what I mean!

ShatnersBassoon Thu 13-Aug-15 22:48:50

11 probably. When they'll be letting themselves in the house and getting from A to B as part of the average school day.

UrethraFranklin1 Thu 13-Aug-15 22:50:25


But if its your kid, the PIL's opinion is irrelevant. Tell them to sod off.

YouTheCat Thu 13-Aug-15 22:51:50

Over 12.

Under 12s aren't allowed in our cinema unaccompanied.

cashewnutty Thu 13-Aug-15 22:52:04

11 or 12

rememberingnothing Thu 13-Aug-15 22:52:09


Tortoise Thu 13-Aug-15 22:52:41

Same as other 11/12ish.

HemanOrSheRa Thu 13-Aug-15 22:53:49

This had made me think. My DS is 10 and I've been gradually giving him more freedom particularly over the summer holidays. But I probably wouldn't let him do this yet. I'd say 11.

kgov1 Thu 13-Aug-15 22:54:05

Agree with most of the other posters, would let my 11 year old do this but no way on this earth would I let my 8 year old.

MsJuniper Thu 13-Aug-15 22:55:03

Over 12 in my cinema.

annandale Thu 13-Aug-15 22:55:10

DS is 11.5 so clearly he's on the young side which isn't surprising and will lead me not to push it further than this yet, but it's not way out of line. That's quite a relief, thank you.

I just wish they'd told me, not dh. I would have been able to say 'Oh but FIL it was you who told me all about going to the Saturday morning children's matinee aged 8 which made me think I needed to let ds do more things alone' grin whereas dh has been really low all day because he feels criticised by them sad

Floggingmolly Thu 13-Aug-15 22:55:38


thegreylady Thu 13-Aug-15 22:55:59

12/13 but if entirely alone I wouldn'tbe keen ever unless they really wanted to at 14+

LokiBear Thu 13-Aug-15 22:56:14

12. How old is your child?

yummumto3girls Thu 13-Aug-15 22:56:31

13/14! No way at 10!

RebootYourEngine Thu 13-Aug-15 22:56:58

My ds is 11 and i would not let them do this and i am a pretty lax parent when it comes to ds doing things on his own or with friends. Id say age 13 or over.

LokiBear Thu 13-Aug-15 22:58:27

I think you are fine at 11.5. Try not to get too hung up about it. Inside out is a brilliant film, you should be more upset that you missed seeing it.

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