My friend and I go way, way back to teenage years and I have to be clear here there is no question as to whether she's a friend or not - she is and she's brilliant. Kind, hilarious (in a very dry way) compassionate - I could praise her all day.
It is probably fair to say she's always been a "glass half empty" person - I am 'woohoo, we've got four days holiday left!'; she is 'ohhh I am depressed, half the holiday has gone' but she was always quite dry and sardonic aimed at herself not others (sometimes dry people can be a little bit mean but she isn't.)
However I must admit lately the negativity seems to have got worse, or am I noticing it more? A constant complaint is that she 'never does anything' - she honestly does more than anybody else I know (has a very active life with her partner.) She complains a LOT about her work and I get that as I do the same demanding job but at times I feel like screaming 'is there any light at the end of the tunnel!' She complains about being fat (she is not only not fat but tiny!) and about loads of tiny petty things.
I am often a good ying to her yang if you like but lately I feel fed up and I think I'm making the mistake of taking it personally - of feeling like because she's fed up she's fed up with ME! And I've gone through quite a lot in the last eighteen months or so but I feel like it's lost in the rubble of a thousand other petty complaints. Like the twin towers have collapsed and how annoying, she stubbed her toe on the debris
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myfriendsadementor · 13/08/2015 07:43
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