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Very rude - YANBU

No, that is extremely rude. I would contact them and ask if everything is okay as you expected them at the wedding and they didn't show up. Then leave it at that. Unbelievable they haven't even been in touch with an excuse.

Oh I lie, dh contacted one of them who responded saying they were too hungover

Too hungover! What is wrong with people??

That's awful.

Very, very rude

I wasent surprised at that guest tbh, he has form for being extremely unreliable.

The other two I was quite surprised about though.

We had one couple do that to us. 2 years ago, I still haven't forgiven them.

Were they just invited to the evening part? Or the full thing?

If you are surprised by 2 of them not turning up, have you not contacted them out of concern?

Facebook tells me they are fine, or certainly fine enough to have messaged me to say sorry they didn't make it/couldn't make it. I don't even expect a reason!

They were invited to whole thing, we didn't have separate evening guests.

Tenforward, the stubborn petty part of me wants to cut them out of my life but I know that's just silly.

YANBU but its done now so I'd let it go and move on, or your memories of the day will be marred by the people who didn't show up.

I had a couple of people who didn't turn up to mine; one called a day before but the other three didn't and have never offered an explanation. I'm really not bothered, they missed out on a great day and a free bar.

in that case yanbu. I would have thought, that even if something really bad had happened, they would have contacted you within a month. If they have been on fb. Even just to say 'really sorry we didn't make it'.

That's disgusting behaviour on their part, so rude!
I forked out money for transportation for our guests, which everyone rsvp'd they had wanted, but no one used it!
There's so much hype about 'perfect' wedding days, but I think it's normal to feel a bit about some aspects of it afterwards

Yes very rude, but not uncommon, unfortunately.

Incredibly rude.

Just out of curiosity I just checked if they had any Facebook updates on the wedding day, one of them went to the beach!

YANBU but I am amazed at how people when invited to our party for our silver wedding either ignored the invite or said they were coming and then did not show with no apology.

I can't believe how many people have experienced the same thing, so shockingly rude!

One guy didn't turn up to our wedding and then never offered an explanation for 10 years until one day he expressed surprised that DH was married (on facebook)

Their behaviour is totally unreasonable. If they had been taken ill on the day of the wedding or another emergency had occurred, they should have contacted the venue or someone in the wedding party (bride or groom´s parents or siblings, best man, bridesmaid, etc.) to let them know, then contacted you in person after the wedding. I am astonished that people would be so rude.

So the one that went to the beach has removed me on Facebook.
God knows what I have done!

I have messaged her asking if I have upset her in some way due to the non attendance and the Facebook removal.

How odd

YNBU. But people are not obliged to congratulate you.

She's obviously not happy to have the whole of mumsnet read about her lack of manners.