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AIBU?

Is it precocious of her?

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Laindons · 11/08/2015 21:12

Posted this in Chat but didn't get much of a response.

My friend gave birth Saturday (no one knew she was in labour), and Monday evening she released a video of herself on facebook, holing her baby (looking rather fab for someone who's just given birth), announcing the date, time and full name of the child. She only had close friends and family on Facebook so it wasn't really a huge share, and phone called anyone who didn't have access to FB.

Friends of mine who I've told think she's very unreasonable, precocious and self absorbed for doing this. I must admit, it did come across as very celebish but it was beautiful and different to the pictures you just usually get popping up on your feed.

What do you think? I rather like the idea Grin

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SaulGood · 11/08/2015 21:17

As my response on your other thread apparently wasn't good enough, I shan't bother repeating it.

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quesadillas · 11/08/2015 21:17

I think that I probably couldn't be bothered with all that faff after giving birth. People got texts. A few got brief phone calls. That's enough effort.

Also, if one of my friends did it, I wouldn't notice. I never play videos on Facebook.

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AGlass · 11/08/2015 21:18

Precocious? I wouldn't have said so.

Uploading a video is hardly setting the IT world alight.

It sounds like a nice thing to do, and most new parents get a bit carried away.

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Heels99 · 11/08/2015 21:18

Sounds love
Y! Your friends sound awful, slagging off someone who just gave birth because she posted a clip of herself with baby as a birth announcement! Get new friends!

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WorraLiberty · 11/08/2015 21:20

I can't really form an opinion on it either way.

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Lorialet · 11/08/2015 21:20

Do you actually know what precocious means?

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PolterGoose · 11/08/2015 21:20

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Icimoi · 11/08/2015 21:20

I can't see why your friends think this is unreasonable. It's not as if she's making a massive public announcement.

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Laindons · 11/08/2015 21:20

I think the main issue was is her keeping everyone in such a 'suspense' and not revealing anything much at all, even by phone.

Usually, people know about a birth within 24 hours. Aunties and uncles didn't even know.

Plus who posts a video perfectly timed and full face of make up etc?

Have to admit I am jealous but I don't dislike what she's done and wasn't the one slagging her off with friends Wink

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amothersplaceisinthewrong · 11/08/2015 21:23

When I gave birth there were no mobile phones (other than house bricks) , no twitter, no internet. Everyone who needed to know knew within 24 hours.

I did however put my face on very soon after giving birth and did my hair!

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Heels99 · 11/08/2015 21:24

Get over yourself, how mean to be bitching about her with your friends. You either showed them the video or talked about it in such a way that they all decided it was a bad thing to do.
Why are you jealous? Of her having a baby? are you all 16 years old?

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ShadowStar · 11/08/2015 21:24

Well, as the definition of precocious is along the lines of someone being unusually advanced in their development, I'd say that she's definitely not being precocious.

As for the rest of it, it doesn't sound too different to a normal FB birth announcement.

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MythicalKings · 11/08/2015 21:25

Not sure precocious is the word. Do you mean precious? That makes more sense.

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NoArmaniNoPunani · 11/08/2015 21:25

Was it the baby doing the talking? Can't see how it was precocious otherwise.

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Charis1 · 11/08/2015 21:25

really don't understand the problem.

What she has done sounds nice to me. What are people not happy about?

I wouldn't do it, and I wouldn't notice it if any of my friends had done it, but every one is different.

Complete non issue.

I can't even work out where the non issue is supposed to be.

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quesadillas · 11/08/2015 21:25

Nobody except very close family knew I'd given birth for a few days. Good on her for keeping it quiet for a while if that's what she wanted to do.

Crikey, I know the date I'll give birth next month. I'm refusing to tell friends. Are they slagging me off behind my back?!

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RonaldosAbs · 11/08/2015 21:26

If it was late then it was not "precocious" at all, do you actually know what that word means? Why have you done two threads on this? Do you maybe mean pretentious (even though it isn't a video is quite a good way to share this kind of thing now I think of it)? Precocious means earlier than usual.


I put on a good face of makeup etc after my kids were born and visitors arrived etc, nothing wrong with that either Hmm

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NerrSnerr · 11/08/2015 21:27

Her baby, her choice how she tells people. I don't see why this is worthy of two threads.

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Heels99 · 11/08/2015 21:27

Of course if the baby was wearing make up then it would be precocious, but we assume not

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laffymeal · 11/08/2015 21:28

I'm struggling with your question. What exactly do you think she did "wrong" or inappropriate?

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 11/08/2015 21:28

I don't do FB so the angst I read about it here is to me.

I think it sounds quite nice actually.

What response are you looking for here if you were largely ignored in chat?, why re-post?

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TeddyBear5 · 11/08/2015 21:29

I'd say you're more attention seeking than she is! Starting a second thread because you didn't rate the replies people had already given their time to leave you....Hmm

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YUDOTHIS · 11/08/2015 21:31

YABU. mind your own for fuck sake. If she'd uploaded a video of her throwing her baby off a cliff you could go mental, fair enough. she did a birth announcement! Its these type of threads that will stop me from posting on fb at all. Takes the piss how you get your life dissected...

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Laindons · 11/08/2015 21:33

Sorry, I meant pretentious! On OH's android and for some reason that's what it gets changed to.

Another poster did actually say it was quite twattish

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YUDOTHIS · 11/08/2015 21:36

I missed the twattish post, If the OP of the twattish post could let me know how a woman posting a birth announcement on facebook is twattish that'd be great.

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