Hi there.
I am prepared to be flamed for this and know there are bigger problems in the world but I need to get it off my chest.
DSd is 18. She has a baby under 1 year old, it was a mistake she claims. She told her dad that the pill she was taking failed and that her partner used a condom and that ripped too.
She is no longer with the baby s dad and has a very volatile relationship with him played out for all to see on social media.
She was 16 when she got pregnant and had not been with her boyfriend long.
Neither of them work.
She is always asking her dad for money to buy things and will not consider or entertain the possibility of buying used things for herself or the baby. Everything has to be expensive and new.
She owes her dad money and promised when he lent it to her that she would pay it back at x amount per week. She now says she cannot afford it and quote ' has had to go into her overdraft to buy cigarettes.'
Well now to the problem. Within the space of 4 months she split with the baby's dad( not the first time they have split),met a boy who she claimed on social media was the 'love of her life'. Ended the relationship with this boy and got back with the baby's father. Got engaged to the baby's father, her father and I found out through social media. Booked a wedding, telling us to save the date. Split with him, met someone else and got pregnant to him within a matter of weeks rather than months.
Again she has told the entire world all about it.
She has now lost the baby and is 'devastated' although she told her father it was another mistake as the pill had, yet again failed.
She will no doubt get pregnant again , I'm certain of that.
On the day that she told her father she was pregnant again, she asked us to collect her from the latest boyfriends and take her to boyfriend number one to collect her baby.
Here is the thing.
The last thing we knew she was involving the courts to try and stop boyfriend number one from having access to the baby yet now he is a convenient babysitter, she dumps the baby there overnight do that she can spend time with her latest boyfriend.
The reason I am angry with her Is that she called her dad in tears screaming and crying thst boyfriend one would not let her in the house to gave be baby back saying she was an unfit mother and he wanted to look after the child.
Her dad had to leave work early to go and help her and got a serious rollicking from his boss over it.
Now she dumps the child with the so called unfit first boyfriend to basically spend the night with botpyfriend number 3!
Sorry thst this is long.
I have told dp to have a serious word with her.
How on earth can she bring another child into this situation .
She hardly knows the latest boyfriend whom I should add already has a child and is quite a bit older than her.
She refuses to let us meet him claiming that we won't like him.
How will she support another child?
She has asked us to contribute to an expensive item for her baby's first birthday and I have said no.
I worked 6 days a week when my dd was born and her father worked full time too and we made do with 2nD hand items
Her dad has admitted to me that he daren't say anything to upset her.
Ever time he voices his opinion she stops all contact and that includes with our grandson and my dp adores
Him
I don't know what I'm asking and wonder if I'm just an old fashioned fuddy duddy, but it all seems so wrong to me.
I haven't asked my friends as quite frankly we are both embarrassed by her behaviour.
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To be annoyed with step daughter-2nd pregnancy.
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