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starrieskye Fri 07-Aug-15 21:24:20

Aibu to think he should put in a claim for jsa not keep thinking he'll get a job any day. Filled with great plans but no money, £400 left and nothing else.

Boofy27 Fri 07-Aug-15 21:27:33

Of course he should but if he doesn't, you need to find out what you can claim yourself for being in a incomeless household.

starrieskye Fri 07-Aug-15 21:28:27

I'm not entitled to anything it's him.

GarminGirl Fri 07-Aug-15 22:16:09

aren't you? jobseekers yourself?

starrieskye Fri 07-Aug-15 22:20:43

no i work ft

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky Fri 07-Aug-15 22:25:16

Who is "he"? Your DP?

If it's your DP and you work full time then he might not be eligible for JSA anyway.

I'm sure someone with more knowledge on this will come along soon though.

starrieskye Fri 07-Aug-15 22:26:53

He doesn't live with me

ilovesooty Fri 07-Aug-15 22:27:22

He probably won't be eligible for income based JSA but could presumably claim contribution based JSA.

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky Fri 07-Aug-15 22:28:26

In that case he should claim.

ilovesooty Fri 07-Aug-15 22:29:14

Cross post. I see he doesn't live with you. In that case he can presumably make the decision himself but will surely have to claim once his money runs out.

starrieskye Fri 07-Aug-15 22:33:27

I'm so worried about it

marriednotdead Fri 07-Aug-15 22:37:20

But it's not for you to worry about, can you not see that?

Sometimes you have to step back and let people make their own decisions, and let them live with the consequences.

If they've decided not to worry, advise them once and then leave them to it.

GarminGirl Fri 07-Aug-15 22:39:21

why are you worried?

KirstyJC Fri 07-Aug-15 22:39:51

Will he be expecting you to pay his way if/when the money runs out? I can see that might be worrying you. Make it clear you won't be subbing him and then leave him to it.

LIZS Fri 07-Aug-15 22:40:25

Not clear how this affects you if you are not together. It wouldn't be a significant amount even assuming he qualifies.

starrieskye Fri 07-Aug-15 22:40:39

I have to, I promised I would look after him. I just can't see how he's ever going to get a job, again.

GarminGirl Fri 07-Aug-15 22:42:19

promised??

KirstyJC Fri 07-Aug-15 22:51:10

Well, break your promise. He needs to look after himself - and take responsibility for himself by claiming the benefits he needs not sponging off you.
There's nothing wrong with you helping out if you can afford to and want to, but if he is not claiming money he ought to be and expecting you to make it up instead out of a sense of 'duty' then he can go whistle! Why would you promise anyway? Is there some problem with him? Why wouldn't he ever get a job again?

ilovesooty Fri 07-Aug-15 22:52:34

Why is looking after him your responsibility when he can claim jsa and you don't live together?

starrieskye Fri 07-Aug-15 22:54:42

I promised my mum and dad. I don't know what to do.

RJnomore Fri 07-Aug-15 22:56:21

Is this your brother?

ilovesooty Fri 07-Aug-15 22:56:39

Not your partner then.

Really, it isn't your responsibility. He needs to claim if he's eligible.

GarminGirl Fri 07-Aug-15 22:57:03

I'm confused...who has the £400?

KirstyJC Fri 07-Aug-15 22:58:37

Who is he to you - is it your brother? Are your parents still around and able to help?

Helping someone doesn't mean paying for them so that they can ignore their responsibilities - it means allowing them to learn to manage their own life. Including messing it up by running out of money by not doing what they should do.

If you can't afford it, then don't. And give his arse a kick!

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky Fri 07-Aug-15 23:09:34

Well I'm really confused now OP.

Who is he exactly? Is he your brother?

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