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To Go out the back to the park, and gag the 7 year old who is screaming her head off

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Shosha1 Fri 07-Aug-15 19:55:03

and has done off and on for the last week.

She is just sitting on the top of the climbing frame screaming every time another child comes near the frame. And I mean screaming !

I know that Its not quite 8 yet but there are lots of little ones asleep by this time ( or trying to be)

And before anyone says anything she is not SEN and having a meltdown, she is just screaming for the sake of screaming.

I know others have complained to her parents, but it still carries on.

Vatersay Fri 07-Aug-15 19:56:28

Go speak to the child.

Calmly, with a smile, pop up on the climbing frame and in a firm tone tell her it is completely unacceptable behaviour.

MrsCs Fri 07-Aug-15 19:57:14

I agree Vatersay, toddlers fine, but older kids really should be told screaming is not necessary

seaoflove Fri 07-Aug-15 19:58:40

I live right next door to a junior school playground. It gets incredibly noisy at breaktimes and lunchtimes, which doesn't bother me, but the bloodcurdling SCREAMING really does. YANBU!

Vatersay Fri 07-Aug-15 20:00:25

Actually Mrs C I didn't allow my two to scream as toddlers either (unless in pain obviously).

It's deeply anti-social behaviour.
DD has a friend who screams - but not in my house or garden smile

Shosha1 Fri 07-Aug-15 20:01:18

I've been a CM/nanny for almost 40 years and it's the one thing I cannot stand is screaming.

She gone in now, but I think if it starts again I will go do my very best Nanny McPhee impression.

What with the new neighbours doing nothing but argue and shout since they have moved in a few weeks ago, and the park behind, I can't wait to complete on our forever home and move

MrsCs Fri 07-Aug-15 20:12:45

My oldest is two and I discourage it if he does but what I mean is you expect to have to discourage it, by eight they shouldn't need reminded

Shosha1 Fri 07-Aug-15 20:14:07

She's back.

I'm going to have a little word.

Prelude Fri 07-Aug-15 20:16:31

YANBU. I didn't allow mine to scream (including the child with autism and before he was able to learn not to I took him elsewhere to play) but two of the local children do it all the time. It's really grating and so different from the usual sound of children playing.

I've worked with children and some types of noise raise your blood pressure and make you think, "that sounds out of control and someone is going to have an accident" Sure enough it is followed by crying.

Today I decided that if I win the lottery I will find the noisiest, most anti-social people imaginable and do a house exchange with them before I buy a place.

Vatersay Fri 07-Aug-15 20:17:57

MrsC I quite agree.

Thefacttheyact1234 Fri 07-Aug-15 20:19:17

Yes screaming knocks me off balance. Awful.

goodasitgets Fri 07-Aug-15 20:21:38

Posted this before but my old NDN child used to scream all the time when playing. Was at home one day and she was screaming help, which wasn't unusual
Eventually it carried on and I went out to find her hanging out an upstairs window, having tried to climb up with a scarf looped around. She fell and hit the concrete just as I stepped out. Broke both her legs

Salmotrutta Fri 07-Aug-15 20:25:14


Talk about crying wolf goodas! shock

GarlicDoughballsInGlitter Fri 07-Aug-15 20:25:27

I hate screaming!

How did your 'word' go? Do you know the parents? Any chance of. Getting them on side?

ButEmilylovedhim Fri 07-Aug-15 20:25:42

How did it go shosha? Any joy?

Prelude Fri 07-Aug-15 20:26:02

shock goodas

Ours have taken to playing in the road on a blind bend. I keep worrying about that sort of scenario, or worse but like you, if they're screaming all the time like the boy who cried wolf...

Shosha1 Fri 07-Aug-15 20:28:37

I was nice, icily nice and asked her to please stop screaming, it was getting late and babies were trying to sleep.

' my mum says I can'

'Well I'm asking you not too'

' mummmmmmmm' screaming a again

The Mother came out if a nearby garden.

' What's wrong '

' could you please ask (child's name ) to stop screaming

' why she's a child, children have to be able to express themselves '

' But other children are trying to sleep, '

' you havnt got any kids so why are you bothered'

' Because it's driving me mad'

She lifted the child down and wandered off complaining that I am a grumpy old woman.

Still she's stopped now

goodasitgets Fri 07-Aug-15 20:29:29

That's why I get so cross about children screaming. If your leg is hanging off or someone is trying to drag you away, it's helpful to be able to scream and someone come out
None of our neighbours even bother when we hear a child screaming now sad
I felt awful because if I had got there a minute earlier we could have thrown pillows down or something under her

iklboo Fri 07-Aug-15 20:31:20

Stand outside her front door singing rugby songs at the top of your voice at 2am. Tell her you're 'expressing yourself'.

chemenger Fri 07-Aug-15 20:31:45

Is there a more annoying answer from a child than "my mum says I can"?

ButEmilylovedhim Fri 07-Aug-15 20:32:04

Christ, some people. Well done for doing it. Hopefully mother and child will think on now.

Shosha1 Fri 07-Aug-15 20:37:24

Iklboo, that's more likely to be her Father.

Emily, I doubt it, she's the middle of five, and although the park is safe, all the back gardens form the square the park is in, so no roads, all ( including the 2 year old can be out there from 5.30 in the morning on their own.

Vatersay Fri 07-Aug-15 20:41:24

"Children need to express themselves" hmm

I'd have suggested that she expressed herself, at home, with the windows shut.

SnapesCapes Fri 07-Aug-15 20:44:35

I say to mine sometimes "Unless you are on fire you absolutely must not make that noise ever again". People look at me like I'm mad, but shrieky noises make me a bit on edge.

ButEmilylovedhim Fri 07-Aug-15 20:49:21

That's so irresponsible. Poor 2 year old. No wonder you can't wait to move.

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