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Cracendale Fri 07-Aug-15 18:42:57

Just moved into converted house, im below a guy.
Twice he was over knocked on my door, by this I mean he will ring my bell even though he has access to my flat door because his is in the same building.
So he rings my bell, then again, then let's himself in and knocks on my door, then says something like. "Hello" then rings my bell again.
The two times before he did this was for nothing important, it was to discuss a lock change the HA doing.
It wasn't a nesscary conversation and wasn't urgent like he made out by ringing my door like he was police

He has just done this again
I'm in bed and just had eye surgery and he woke me up.
I have one of those bells that if you leave your finger on it it will ring forever
He pressed it 5 times and knocked on my door
I'm in complete silence
I don't know if he is stupid or something to not understand im either out or sleeping since I'm in complete silence I don't know

But now I'm pissed off, I'm in pain from surgery last time he did this I was grieving for my mother.
I don't know him for him to be ringing down my door like this
Nothing he would say will be important because I do not know him
He knows. Nothing about me
If he had to give me anything he can leave it on the side because he lives in the same building.

Aibu ?
When he rings again I want to tell him to not ever ring my door like that and if I ignore the door go away
How do I put this politely?

Cracendale Fri 07-Aug-15 18:45:15

I don't mean to come off as snobby saying "he has nothing important to say" but I mean it in the sense of I don't know him and he rings my door like its his girlfriends/boyfriends door

I don't like to be disturbed and im very private
I say hi and bye but that's it
And im in terrible pain right now

iluvshoes Fri 07-Aug-15 19:06:54

it sounds like you have alot on your plate at the mo which probably isnt helping. I would just speak to him when you next see him. You dont come across a snobby just someone whos going through a bit of a tough time. Maybe hes just trying to be freindly. Good luck

BitchBags Fri 07-Aug-15 19:10:37

That would annoy me too op. I would ask him to knock only once when he needs to and to not carry on if there is no answer.
I hope you feel better soon flowers

crustsaway Fri 07-Aug-15 19:11:49

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YakTriangle Fri 07-Aug-15 19:13:54

Put a note on your door saying 'do not knock or ring bell.'
Then when you next see him, tell him that any parcels etc can be left for you, that he doesn't need to come to your door with anything, and that he woke you up by leaning on the bell whilst you were recovering from surgery.

OTheHugeManatee Fri 07-Aug-15 19:14:12

Has he been watching too much Big Bang Theory?

Myname15 Fri 07-Aug-15 19:17:18

You definitely don't sound snobby.
I'd be seriously fucked off. However, I imagine, and hope, he'll be mortified when you explain. If he was to continue it though, that's harassment.
Go and speak to him, when you're ready, and tell him. It's really hard sometimes, but definitely wait til you're feeling OK. I had a ndn who did the same years ago, and I don't have mates 'drop in', they call first. I had just moved because a previous neighbour had stalked me so it scared the shit out of me. Anyway, I got very upset. It turned out he was autistic. I don't think he realised the generally accepted etiquette. An elderly neighbour was also similar and he was just anxious and lonely. Hopefully it's just thoughtlessness.deal with it as civilised as poss, this time anyw

HarrietSchulenberg Fri 07-Aug-15 19:23:22

Crikey, no wonder people moan about unfriendly neighbours.
Just open the damned door and find out what he wants, then politely but firmly tell him you've had surgery and need to be left in peace.
If he doesn't leave you in peace then unleash hell's fury upon him so he'll never ring again.

Welshmaenad Fri 07-Aug-15 19:30:02

"Is he special needs?"

What the FUCK?

chamerion Fri 07-Aug-15 19:36:03

Switch off the bell till you've had a chance to chat to him?

cleanindahouse Fri 07-Aug-15 19:36:09

"is he special needs"

What the ACTUAL FUCK?

crustsaway Fri 07-Aug-15 19:42:39

What are you saying that for cleanindahouse? he may be and doesnt know about boundaries so what the actual fuck are you saying what the ACTUAL FUCK for.

cleanindahouse Fri 07-Aug-15 19:45:58

I think you'll find that your comment has been deleted and i'm not the only one saying it, so maybe i'm not the one who talked out of turn...

crustsaway Fri 07-Aug-15 19:47:57

Why on earth would my message be deleted. He may have a condition whereby it limits his social awareness. What on earth is wrong with putting that perspective on the conversation?

quietbatperson Fri 07-Aug-15 19:48:01

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

crustsaway Fri 07-Aug-15 19:49:34

Is no one allowed to say he may have a condition?

This is absolutely bizarre.

crustsaway Fri 07-Aug-15 19:51:31

what on earth is wrong with saying "special needs"????? Am I two weeks out of date here? on PC language. Ridiculous.

blackrabbitwhiterabbit Fri 07-Aug-15 19:52:23

What on earth is wrong with saying 'special needs?'

I'm a teacher and we still use this term in our school. Was she meant to say 'additional needs' or whatever the latest PC version of the word is??

DixieNormas Fri 07-Aug-15 19:53:34

Does he have special needs might be better hmm fucking hell

That would really piss me off op

blackrabbitwhiterabbit Fri 07-Aug-15 19:53:43

X-posts with you there, Crustsaway....!! Word for word, practically!

msgrinch Fri 07-Aug-15 19:53:50

It's probably the phrase "is he special needs" rather than "do you think he could have special needs/additional needs?".

is he special needs implies that's all he is, like a label rather than a person with a disability.

crustsaway Fri 07-Aug-15 19:55:53

what?????? oh for goodness sake! how pathetic.

here was me trying to be a bit kind to the guy.

DixieNormas Fri 07-Aug-15 19:56:55

Goady twat

crustsaway Fri 07-Aug-15 19:58:53

Im assuming you're talking about me there Dixie, you're coming across in a nasty manner there.

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